Double posting, sorry.
I’ve got children, one of whom is just out the baby stage, sometimes it’s quite overwhelming. We just got the youngest sleeping better and I’m at work now. But every time someone I know announces a pregnancy it sets off this internal pressure to have another baby and almost envy (except I’m not jealous in the slightest because I want the best for my friends) and worry that if I wanted to I couldn’t conceive again.
Seriously what’s with this? Has anyone else had this? It is clearly not the right time and if you’d have asked me prior to a few friends pregnancy announcements I’d have said, it’s not the right time. I have quite a close age gap between my two so a third in close succession would polish me off, plus mat pay etc etc. I know all of this but It’s almost like it’s started an internal ticking clock in me
I’ve not suffered from infertility as such, but I was told I’d need ivf to conceive due to lean pcos. I got a lot of comments and pity in that time from (sometimes) well meaning friends. I think that’s got something to do with it. In truth it was daft as from coming off contraception to conceiving toon a year and from actively trying 8 months. I’m early 30s and in both my pregnancy I got referred to as an older mum? Maybe that too? Hubby and I ‘think’ we might want a third, but the CoL at the mo have made us take a step back right now.
anyone else had a similar internal process? Or am i just nuts?