It was a common theme throughout my marriage that my soon to be ex-H didn’t think I made enough effort with my appearance. Has referred to me as looking like a tramp in the past.
I admit that, on a day to day basis, I don’t wear make-up (especially as WFH and when with the kids) but obviously if I’m going out or into office, I would always wear make-up etc, nicer clothes. I feel I’ve always looked nice and respectable but never with hair perfect “done” hair, nails done etc. I’ve always been like this (even when we met) so not as if I’ve changed.
Anyway, a common theme also is that he feels I’m setting a terrible example for our DD10. I brush her hair every day and get put it up for school. She brushes own hair too but I do help as it’s very thick and she tends to not get the underneath. She is not that bothered about having perfect hair but I thought that was pretty normal for a 10 year old.
Anyway, she came home yesterday with her her straightened. In fairness, it did look lovely. I just feel that a 10 year old has the rest of her life to worry about those things
Sorry this is a bit rambling, I not even sure what I’m asking. I guess what’s normal hair care for a 10 year old and do people make a big effort trying to encourage “grooming”.