To think this is really quite rude and inconsiderate of DH?

[Annoyedandhaveaheadache]

Or am I overreacting? We have a nearly two yo. Obviously he is a lot of work.

Since he was born every so often DH will go outside and I think it’s for a minute or two but then starts messing around in the garage. Sometimes it takes hours. So now I have been stuck in with ds, sorting his lunch etc.

If he said he needed to do something and gave me an idea that would be one thing but he doesn’t. It’s always just assumed I’m fine with sitting in with a toddler.

Of course you don't both need to stay with the toddler, but someone does and there are only two choices.

If you're settled inside, it's perhaps a reasonable assumption that he can go out to the garage for five minutes to get something and come back (although still considerate to say where he's going, even if it seems strange as he would not have done it pre-child). It's a completely different assumption that he can go out to the garage and spend three hours there and someone else will just automatically look after his child.

Of course, you COULD go out and get him, or probably even call his mobile, but why should you have to do that? He's supposed to be an equal partner and an equal parent. If he were home alone with the toddler, he would presumably not go out to the garage for three hours and leave her on her own. It sounds like he somehow isn't in the mindset yet of always thinking about his small child FIRST, rather than assuming that someone else will take care of her.