To elope!?

[Moonshine74]

DP & I have been engaged now for nearly 6 years, the engagement was never intended to be a long one but we had two massive family losses and then throw a pandemic into the mix and here we are!

Over the last few months I can't shake the overwhelming feeling I just want to be married! I've spoke about this with DP and although he feels the same he's reluctant to just go and get married on our own as he's worried about upsetting various family and friends, most importantly my DM and our teen DD.

For context we have been together for years and share our whole lives, including working together. So in one way it's just a formality BUT will I regret eloping (eg a very simple civil ceremony) or am I missing out?! Has anyone else done this and how did your family react?

Help!

We had no one with us and our witnesses were the piper and photographer

Then why can't you have a very small ceremony with the close people you want?

@BashfulClam Oo love this idea!

Honestly it was great. We called and got info, drive out to have a look (saw seals on the rocks) and then booked it. It was all pretty simple. As we lived quite far away we didn’t have to go to the registry office for an in person appointment. We booked the registrar and turned up with our finery. They did everything else. The accommodation, someone to help with my dress, piper, photographer etc. the weather held luckily so we got married looking across to Jura.

@Moonshine74 give them a call they are really lovely.

my youngest son and future dil are about to elope (no clue as to the timing). although i've not asked i can put together a few reasons why this is a good plan for them.
i'm so so happy for them that i'm not fussed to not see or share the moment. i will hope (push) for a few good photo's and look forward to going out to dinner and hearing all about it.
it probably helps that he's my 3rd and the eldest did the bigger more customary wedding.
they have hinted enough that dh and i will not be shocked.

@greenspaces4peace I think that's a factor too! I'm the eldest and will be the first wedding in the immediate family! I've already had the hints/guilt from grandparents!

I'd bring your daughter, but otherwise do it.

We did a civil wedding, no fancy frock, no hen do, no bridesmaids.
We each invited our kids, the remaining oarents, siblings & their spouses, 2 best friends each & their spouses ! No kids)
We told no-one until it was over.
The 2 dc were witnesses.
Then lovely late lunch in private room in a nice local restaurant. ( we all walked to it)
Then home for champagne & dancing.
Fantastic happy day