Constantly compared to my younger sister

[Ontobetterthings]

My weight is constantly being compared to my sisters. I don't know if there's anything you can suggest. I'm 2 years older. We are in our thirties and I'm 2 stone heavier than her. I'm not big so i don't understand it. We were out with friends and one friend started on about how slim and fit my sister is and she couldn't believe we were sisters as look at me and don't I just hate her. I went to a family party and my sisters mil was saying to me about how it's not fair she's so lucky at being thin and how we aren't so lucky. Then last week my mum was saying how my sister doesn't have our problem of being big. I'm a 12-14 at most.

I think I look good, I go the gym 4 times a week, have a high paying job, nice kids and dh. This is starting to really upset me, people keep comparing me.

We have a family wedding next month. I'm really dreading it as I had crappy comments already and I know I'll get there and people will start saying she looks great and oh don't I just wish I looked the same. Why can't they leave me out of it and just give her a compliment. Am I being oversensitive? I'm feeling tearful. I feel like I'm being put down.

A few comebacks for your wedding if you don't want to be blunt:

Yes my sister does look lovely, but she's also a lovely person inside who's accomplished lots (adds your own bits in.

Judging people prevents us from seeing the good that lies beyond appearances

Or how about: don't be so fucking rude, judge yourself before you start picking fault in the way I look.

Why on earth don't you just say something. Can I ask why you always compare me to Sandra/my sister. Because I find it really offensive. Aren't I good enough in my own right?

I get it OP, I am and always have been big (size 20 so much bigger than you). In our 20's my sister was a size 8-10 and almost 6 foot tall.
It was almost as if family couldn't wait to tell me how much fatter I was than her, because obviously I couldn't see it with my own eyes🙄
My nickname, given by my father when I was approx 4/5 years old was Fatty, he never saw a problem with this.
Objectively speaking my life has turned out better than my sisters, she relied on her looks from a young age and I had a cast iron work ethic and relied on myself for everything.
As it turns out we are both now NC with our parents for other reasons and I honestly don't miss them. I still see my sister regularly and we get on fine without the constant comparisons, sometimes you do have to tell family to fuck off....whether that's permanently or not is up to you!

I think it's partly my fault I've tried to laugh it off out of embarrassment but felt hurt inside.