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Ex sents heartfelt letter. Guess who's on Bumble ???

49 replies

steamingirn · 28/01/2023 12:51

So I know I should let sleeping dogs lie but I'd love a great comeback to this letter telling me how much he loves me, crying, not wanting to live but hey ho .... I just found him on bumble . AIBU to want to send a smart reply . I'm dying to ...
Please advise

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bringbacksideburns · 28/01/2023 14:00

Ignore. Ignore. Ignore!

MzHz · 28/01/2023 14:26

BreviloquentBastard · 28/01/2023 13:18

Stop letting him live in your head. Presumably he's you ex for a reason, so put him in the past and leave him there. If you mention it to him all he's going to hear is "I care enough about you to know that you're on a dating app, and am upset enough about it to tell you". Is that really the message you want to be giving him right now?

100% this

purplecorkheart · 28/01/2023 14:36

Ignore would be best or else text back Goodbye BUMBLEbee

zurala · 28/01/2023 14:47

Been reading your letter. Uninterested in your situation. Must be mad to get back with you. Best if you move on. Look to the future. Everything will be fine.

Ohgoodyanotherone · 28/01/2023 15:01

"Read your letter, don't care, fuck off" would be my response.

JudgeRudy · 28/01/2023 15:05

SerenaTee · 28/01/2023 13:14

Screenshot of his profile with two words - this you?

Or send it back edited. Maybe add some big tears or a broken heart to his pic and some exerts from his profile. Using words from his letter?

Or just do that, show your mates. Have a giggle and move on

MsMarch · 28/01/2023 15:07

I'd laugh. Did he write this to you in a physical letter? Becuase I'd just send a screenshot of him on bumbl with hysterical laughing emoticons and a sarcastic, "yEaH, TotalLY WAnt Me. Haha"

ThinWomansBrain · 28/01/2023 15:10

just reply to any future messages with "bumble off"

HareAndBear · 28/01/2023 15:23

Send your reply on Bumble.

ReneBumsWombats · 28/01/2023 16:35

Bee it ever so Bumble, there's no place like FUCK OFF

ReneBumsWombats · 28/01/2023 16:35

To clarify, that's my suggestion for a message. I'm not telling you to fuck off!

GloriAAAH · 28/01/2023 16:48

So why are you even still talking to him if he’s bumbled you? Let it go. Or if you must just say “You’ve been Bumbled”.

Christmaspyjamas · 28/01/2023 18:26

jetadore · 28/01/2023 13:32

Are you really this thick or just putting it on for show? You don’t understand why him being on there AND begging to be taken back isn’t allowed?

Not everyone who has a different take from you is thick. What sort of a way to speak to someone!

Personally I know a few people who have gone on dating sites to try to meet someone whilst being heartbroken over an ex.

So I didn't know if there was background as OP was quite brief.

Have a nice evening.

WindscreenWipe · 28/01/2023 18:32

Christmaspyjamas · 28/01/2023 13:26

I don't understand why he's not allowed on a dating site if he's your ex?

This. He’s perfectly capable of being in love with you and using a dating site whilst single. Do you think people with unrequited love should remain entirely celibate?

Kissedbyfire1 · 28/01/2023 18:40

HareAndBear · 28/01/2023 15:23

Send your reply on Bumble.

And say “buzz off”.

Willyoujustbequiet · 28/01/2023 18:48

WindscreenWipe · 28/01/2023 18:32

This. He’s perfectly capable of being in love with you and using a dating site whilst single. Do you think people with unrequited love should remain entirely celibate?

Its the sheer hypocrisy, as the vast majority of other posters have managed to figure out.

WindscreenWipe · 28/01/2023 18:49

Willyoujustbequiet · 28/01/2023 18:48

Its the sheer hypocrisy, as the vast majority of other posters have managed to figure out.

Imagined hypocrisy though. There isn’t actually any hypocrisy there.

LaLuz7 · 28/01/2023 18:51

WindscreenWipe · 28/01/2023 18:49

Imagined hypocrisy though. There isn’t actually any hypocrisy there.

There is. The fact you don't see it doesn't mean there isn't.

MissMaple82 · 28/01/2023 18:52

SerenaTee · 28/01/2023 13:14

Screenshot of his profile with two words - this you?

No words

WindscreenWipe · 28/01/2023 18:55

LaLuz7 · 28/01/2023 18:51

There is. The fact you don't see it doesn't mean there isn't.

Oh come off it. Look at like this, if you had a mate come to you and say:

”I’m so upset about my break up last year, I just can’t get over X, I love them so much. I’ve tried to move on and forget about them, I’ve tried to accept it’s over but I just can’t. I’ve tried online dating but I can’t find any interest in anyone. People message and all I do is compare them to X. I went on a date thinking I could give it a go but I had no spark and no interest. I just don’t want anyone except X”.

Would you really think “you’re a hypocrite, you can’t possibly love her if you’re online dating”? Of course you wouldn’t.

Many women have posted on this forum saying they’re in love with someone (an ex, a friend, a colleague etc) and mentioned that they’re also online dating. I don’t think anyone has ever called them a hypocrite for it.

LaLuz7 · 28/01/2023 19:01

@WindscreenWipe if he was crying to his ex and begging her to take him back at the same time I would tell him he can't be all that invested. Also not fair on the poor Bumble women to string them along if he's still hopelessly in love with ex.

WindscreenWipe · 28/01/2023 19:02

LaLuz7 · 28/01/2023 19:01

@WindscreenWipe if he was crying to his ex and begging her to take him back at the same time I would tell him he can't be all that invested. Also not fair on the poor Bumble women to string them along if he's still hopelessly in love with ex.

Ok then. How strange.

steamingirn · 29/01/2023 11:42

Some great comebacks there .
I am actually insulted that he thinks he can fill Me with such tripe and yet put himself out there to date again.
He also contacted his ex( that he allegedly hated ) I finished it but told her it was over for good and glory and asked to meet her.
Still haven't decided what to respond. Some excellent choices here ! It will me to ignore him. I hate he thinks he can make a fool out of me like that.

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