I don’t want this title to sound like a cheap porno, but god I’m horny

[Warrensrabbit]

So I made the decision last year to leave my partner. My solicitor advised that if I can I wait until we have an offer on our property to let him know it’s finally over. We haven’t had sex or any intimacy for 5 years. Since I made the final decision to leave my libido has gone through the roof.

it’s like my body knows the end is in sight and can’t wait. I wouldn’t cheat on my partner, but I’m turning into the most dirty perv 🤣.

there’s a friend of mine, and he has a lovely smile, fantastic arms and a cracking arse, I’ve never fantasised about actual acquaintances before- it’s always been in the abstract. I just need to calm down a bit.

has anyone else had this when they are in the process of leaving a relationship? Part of me is relieved that there’s life in me yet. The other part feels a bit guilty that a good mate is now in my wank bank!

I joined tinder.

Best decision I made, I'm having loads of brilliant sex, have made some unexpected friends from it and met my now partner through it

Don't worry, it sounds like an expensive porno instead.

I suppose I’ll need to start looking at things like tinder, I’ve never done the whole online thing. I guess I think I should wait until we’re not living together anymore. But my libido is through the roof at the moment, 5 years of nothing from my partner left me feeling a bit dead inside. now I hug a male friend and I feel like a sex pest… they’d be mortified, but I can’t hardly put a health warning round my neck and tell them to stand 2 meters away at all times

Your body has woken up!! Enjoy yourself op 🍆

Brilliant @Testino haa haa!! Love it

Thanks @Testino I like to believe I still have some class 😂

Haha, I know what you mean about feeling like a sex pest. My libido didn't kick in until years after leaving but now I have a physical reaction to a hug from any adult male I'm not related to. It's quite the revelation! Got to do something about it soon but I absolutely love my single life so I'm in a bit of a quandary

Maybe OP could find a married man and then the thread could be a multi-purpose one (getting wound up by OWs and women talking about their sex drives).
Joke just in case anyone gets wound up by this particular post.

What on earth did you waste your time commenting??? Surely the title should have alerted you to jog the fuck on

oh god, i totally get you.

I've been single for 6 years now, i was absolutely adamant i wasn't interested, had completely gone off sex when i left my ExH, didn't want it ever again.

Couple of years and a very persistent male friend up for fwb fun and i learned i was NOT broken. Currently am 'talking' to at least 2 or 3 people and having some VERY fun conversations and enjoying every minute.

Seriously, just enjoy it. 😁

It’s your body getting primed for some action!

Your libido wilted because your failing relationship made you depressed. Now you are no longer depressed. Good luck out there!

Sorry, hang on - are you saying your partner doesn't know you're leaving him but you've put the house on the market?!

Good for you. Treat yourself to some great sex toys and bide your time!

So I made the decision last year to leave my partner.

When does he get to know @Warrensrabbit ?

My solicitor advised that if I can I wait until we have an offer on our property to let him know it’s finally over.

why did they advise this? Genuine question. How does it affect proceedings? Or if they’re your “partner”, then what is the legal timeline , if any?

Since I made the final decision to leave my libido has gone through the roof.

What makes your decision “final” if you haven’t told him?

If you live in Hampshire then I could be your FWB 😮😋
Be careful on Tinder or other similar contact App, never meet someone completeley alone, meet in a cafe with a friend close by, apart from that - enjoy😊

Confused by the backstory here- does your partner know you're selling the house/leaving him/fantasising about friends? Are you living together?

Everyone's focused on the horny part- but I'm not understanding this

This is all that I wanted to ask too.

Why on earth do you have to wait for an offer on the house to tell him you're leaving?

Does he have no idea?

Does he know about the house?

I find this all of this kind of distasteful - nothing wrong with leaving an unhappy relationship. But not to discuss with your STBEXH? Seems really wrong.

I'm also a bit confused by the backstory. Can't you tell your partner it's over, put the house on the market and then you're free to have sex with whoever you want?

He knows that I am desperately unhappy and we have had numerous conversations about this over the years. He only owns 15% of the property, but I can’t afford buy him out. I don’t want to end up living in a house where he is bringing back other women, is able to make me miserable and there is also a real risk that he will attempt to ruin viewings, and scupper a sale. I’m sorry mumsnet finds it “distasteful” but I think I’ll stick to the legal advice I’ve been given.
my solicitor has advised that I can put the property on the market and notify him when it goes under offer and potentially avoid needing a court order. He is aware the property is for sale, and thinks we are just seeing if we can get a “good offer”
all of our finances have been unpicked, and the joint account closed, we haven’t had sex in 5 years.
he could by reading between the lines, know I am unhappy and no longer want to pay for his lifestyle, most of the house, do all the cleaning, cooking and housework and be in a sexless relationship figure out himself the relationship is over… but he hasn’t seemed to cotton on that being part nun, part housekeeper and breadwinner isn’t the most compelling proposition.

I'm sorry for your situation @Warrensrabbit

It's not legal advice tho - it's the opinion of your solicitor on a non-legal matter.

I think it's a rubbish way to behave to be honest. Tell him it's over, properly (as you say, it'll be something he probably already knows), and work from there. I can't see what he could do realistically do scupper a viewing.

Just tell him for god's sake.