To ask if this is the done thing?

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TinaTeaspoons · 28/01/2023 09:05

Colleague left last week and right up until the end, was complaining about and arguing with other colleagues to the point where there was nearly a physical fight between her and another colleague.
I was the one who listened to her, supported her and was genuine to and behind her back.
Anyway, on her last day she was hugging them all, crying and then sent a long email to us all saying we had all been amazing to work with, that she would remember us forever, lots of love and hugs to every single one of you etc. I know people want to leave on good terms and that the workplace as a whole can be very fake but would I be wise to keep a distance from this person now because I can't really be sure that she is genuine?

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Chilliee · 28/01/2023 09:08

Just because things were turbulent doesn't mean she didn't like and was going to miss these colleagues. If you want to stay friends with her stay friends with her. She might just be a little feisty when in a challenging situation.

neverknowinglyunreasonable · 28/01/2023 09:09

Yeah, seems pretty standard. Argue, physical fight, cry, hug, make up and leave.

Oh sorry, just read your post again and you're talking about a professional job not a 3 year olds play date. In that case it's not normal at all.

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TinaTeaspoons · 28/01/2023 09:15

No, she genuinely does not like them and was very angry and upset with their behaviour, one of the main reasons she was leaving.
I get you want to end things on a positive and respectful note but this was very emotional and caring towards them all and they got an individual mention too. As did I but just seems odd and made me question a lot.

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Aquamarine1029 · 28/01/2023 09:24

I would avoid her like the plague. She sounds far too dramatic for my liking.

Keyansier · 28/01/2023 09:37

To me, it sounds like you are eagerly trying to insert yourself in drama and trying to get involved. Keep in touch with her, don't keep in touch with her...does it really matter? And as an addition, what makes you think she wants to keep in touch with you? Most work colleagues don't once they leave a job. Again, with the drama, sounds like you want it to continue for some reason, in my opinion.

MajesticWhine · 28/01/2023 10:59

It sounds like she is trying to keep up the pretence of good relationships even though the reality is she has sabotaged them all. Why did you back her? Are you so sure she was the one in the right?

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TinaTeaspoons · 28/01/2023 11:28

Not sure where you got the conclusion of me wanting to be involved with drama but OK...
I've been the one to stay out of it all and just listened to her and supported. This is why her being all over the other colleagues surprised me and made me question everything.
Also, she wants to stay in touch so not chasing anything. Just wary now and has made me see I need to be careful

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newnamethanks · 28/01/2023 11:30

You have to ask us?

Maria1982 · 28/01/2023 11:32

Aquamarine1029 · 28/01/2023 09:24

I would avoid her like the plague. She sounds far too dramatic for my liking.

This. I couldn’t be doing with all the drama.
and as you say, seems very fake !

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