Night duty

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Partner usually sleeps separately upstairs so he gets a good nights sleep whilst working.
He slept down with me tonight with DS in the next room. I’d been up for nearly 2 hours feeding and cuddling DS but he just wouldn’t go to sleep. Asked my partner to wake up to cuddle him, which he did for 10 minutes then leaves to go sleep upstairs, leaving DS awake and crying for me to sort out, saying that he must be hungry.
been up for 2.5 hours now and surely this shouldn’t just be my problem!!!

Have you spoken to him about it?

My DH shared nights from the start, even whilst working.

I did most whilst on Mat leave but he was really involved immediately and certainly did weekend nights.

I think your partner is being very unreasonable.

I assume you BF. If you bottle feed he should do a few solo night shifts.

I remember those days and DH was convinced that whatever the question, milk was the answer. I did the first 14 months mostly alone. But he did the next three years, all the sickness bugs and so on. In the end I think it probably came out equal.

Depends how old you DC is as well.

I’ve done nights (working) They’re brutal, mentally and physically. You need to step up and stop playing the victim.
I’m also a single mum of twins so have also done my share of sleepless nights with them.

if he doesn’t get enough sleep he could have an accident. He needs his sleep.
cns you put him in the car and drive around the block? Offer him a milkshake/warm milk

What are you talking about? The DH doesn't work nights.

We bottle fed after the first few weeks but found it significantly easier once a routine kicked in, to essentially to shifts. If I remember correctly, she'd often do the feed about 10-11pm, I'd do the one at about 2-3am and she'd do the 6am one. It means that we both got 6/7 hours sleep most nights, sometimes more if timings worked.

All of them were fairly similar plus or minus an hour or two but once we did it as a set routine, we could plan bedtimes and sleep patterns much better on most days (except when teething, other ailments cropped up!).

Sounds like a schedule or agreement is needed with your partner OP?

We did shifts too - I’d do any wakes before 2am, other half was in bed by 9pm so got protected 9-2am and then other half took over so I’d know I could sleep 2-7 uninterrupted. Still difficult but made it just about manageable in the first two years

How old is baby? Do they need feeding?

Put the DH in a car and drive him round the block? Offer him a milkshake?

Lmao! Baby is 8 months, I had just fed him and he wasn’t hungry anymore, and partner isn’t working or doing anything tomorrow.
need to step up? I’ve been doing this for the past 8 months, every single night, he’s not done any, so I’m hardly shirking responsibility