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A few years ago I had cancer twice and had to have surgery, then chemo and radiotherapy. Before the radiotherapy, I had to have four small tattoos on my body so that the machine could be accurately positioned each time. These tattoos are just dots really, but they are visible and I don't like them. Anyway, in bed this evening my partner looked at one of these tattoos and sarcastically said “I LOVE your tattoos… are they supposed to be a view of the earth from really far away?” For context, this is loosely based on a really old episode of Friends.
Anyway, his comment upset me because I didn’t choose to have these tattoos and they are a permanent reminder of a really awful period of my life. I really don't need him to draw attention to them and take the piss. My partner and I were together throughout all of my cancer diagnoses/treatments, though it was all in the midst of the Covid lockdowns and he didn’t actually come to the hospital with me for any of it (apart from the diagnoses themselves), so he’s possibly a bit disconnected from everything I went through.
Nonetheless, it just felt like a really insensitive, shitty thing to say. He did apologise when I said he’d upset me, but I’m just trying to decide if I’ve overreacted.
AIBU? Would it have upset you?