I’m aware this may well be me, hence asking for advice.
Will try not to drip feed but things that immediately come to mind
Calls me a narcissist and a cont -will have no problem in raising his voice/swearing at me in front of our child
Works shifts but never tells me when he’s working, I do all the childcare, everything in the house
Im told I’m at home all day and do duck all -I actually help care for a dying relative
Told me he couldn’t support me through relative dying
I have to pay half the bills-even when on reduced maternity pay. I’ve also bought everything our child has ever had
If I disagree with something he says, I’m gaslighting.
Its all come to a head tonight as he’s told someone else something I didn’t say and is saying to them I’m mentally unwell, a liar etc.
If this is abuse, don’t tell me to leave as I can’t, I mean I really can’t right now. But I will when I can.