I am processing the end of a relationship and different things that happened and wanted peoples opinion on this one thing. Partly just for processing and partly because my ex has asked if we could try again and I am thinking everything through.
My partner (we were both women) used to take photos and videos of me on the quiet. As an example, we would be sitting somewhere and she would have her phone in her hand, as would I, but sometimes I would see the angle it was at and suddenly realise she was taking photos or video of me. More than once I told her I didn't like her doing that. After we broke up I asked her to send me some pics from a holiday we had taken and she sent a bulk load of pictures and among them were loads of pics I didn't know had been taken. One of these was actually of me sitting up in bed looking at WhatsApp on my phone - her naked eyesight wasn't good enough to see what I was typing but from the pic you certainly could have zoomed in to see it. I didn't have anything to hide but it just feels like an invasion of privacy. Another she sent in that batch was from when we were sitting in a pub and I was talking to her, from the angle she must have had her phone on her knee videoing me.
I don't mind photos being taken when I know its happening, and even if she openly held her phone up to take a candid shot when I wasn't expecting it I wouldn't mind, and its nice if someone wants photos of you. But what bothered me was that she would hold her phone down low and do it in a way I would not know it was being done.
YABU - I am being over sensitive on this
YANBU - it is creepy