Your kids are having an absolutely shit time at school, I don’t know why parents aren’t up in arms?
Many are, but their anger and frustration is mis-directed at school staff, who are also having a shit time, and this is perpetuating the retention crisis in education.
So often I get into school at 7am, open my emails and the first thing I see is a long, 'shouty caps' ridden rant from an angry parent. These are usually fired off in the middle of the night, attacking me personally for things which are completely outside of my or the schools control and blaming me for all their non-school related problems. Often this will be a child I have spent years trying to save from permanent exclusion or becoming disengaged from school altogether, with no support from the services who are actually commissioned and funded to help them. 9 times out of 10 when I call the parent about this they're sweetness and light "oh, I wasn't angry with you, not really, you've been great, I'm just frustrated with XXX (insert general life stuff that is nothing to do with education)". In other words, I needed someone to be angry with and when I typed "if my child kills themselves it'll be your fault!!!!!" at 11pm after a few glasses of Pinot I forgot there would be an actual human being with feelings waking up to recieve it.
Parents will email my Teacher colleagues late on a Sunday night and then complain if they haven't had a response by Monday lunchtime. One of our HOY came back to their office from teaching to find they had over 20 missed calls from a parent, in the space of a few hours. Parents have also posted offensive and factually incorrect things about individual Teachers on social media, including local groups so these posts are then seen by that Teachers own family, friends and neighbours.
Behavior is getting worse as staff are too scared to challenge blatant disregard for the rules, and even behaviour that is unsafe, because they know that this will result in a huge back-lash from the parents so low level disruption is becoming normalised in many schools.
Speaking to colleagues in other schools, there is a general feeling that staff are sick of taking the hit from parent's for the government's failings. I know several Teachers who have cited this as a major factor in their decision to leave the profession over the last few years.