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To be sad about this?

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Rainfull091 · 26/01/2023 22:04

Met a friend through a sports group. I helped her with a lot of things and supported her.
I've been worrying of late that it's been a bit one sided so have tried to be mindful of that.
Anyway, she is moving to another town an hour away and she just put in a text-
Hi Rainfull091,
Sorry didn't make it to the class tonight, got caught up in work. This is as you know, the last time I will make it there.
Will miss you. It's been great knowing you! Been a fantastic pal to me hun.
God bless with love,
Jane xxx

Is this like a final goodbye sort of text as jt seems that way and I feel a bit sad and used but also don't know if I am over reacting because I'm having doubts about how genuine she is.

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Changingplace · 26/01/2023 22:07

Oh, how strange, I wouldn’t consider moving just an hour down the road a reason you’d never see a friend again.

Sorry you’ve had this, it’s a very strange thing for her to have sent but I’d write the friendship off based on it :(

Rainfull091 · 26/01/2023 22:10

I thought I would be told I was being over sensitive so I'm glad you said that.
It does hurt that I was obviously just used as a sounding ground and someone temporary 😔

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UWhatNow · 26/01/2023 22:17

Perhaps you were a just a ‘sports group’ friend. Not everything has to be deep and meaningful and ‘friends for life’.

I’ve said goodbye to mates in this way. Particularly when people leave a job. It was good while it lasted but someone is moving on and you know you won’t keep in touch because all you had in common was work. You can try to keep in touch but eventually it becomes awkward and difficult and you’d have been better off saying a proper goodbye.

She’s thanked you for your friendship and that’s that. It is sad when nice people leave your life but she’s moving on and you need wish her well and move on also.

Astrak · 26/01/2023 22:20

I don't think that you are being unreasonable at all. I think that she is probably one of life's "skimming over the surface" people where your friendship was concerned. She was very fortunate to have had the benefit of your friendship and support.

Her loss. Let it pass, even though it hurts. Buy yourself a lovely bunch of flowers, a magazine of your choice and a foodie treat. You deserve all of them!

Rainfull091 · 26/01/2023 22:21

I wish if I was just that then she shouldn't have confided in me so much and made me feel we were closer friends than just someone who socialised together at the sports club.

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Ponoka7 · 26/01/2023 22:26

I think that she has over confided in you and you've possibly gone into the support role? When things get better it can be embarrassing to still be friends with those that know our past issues. Did you ever just have fun at the end, or was it practically a counselling session?

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