I feel stuck in the middle.
My friend recently mentioned they are going to a theme park and would my family like to come (we would pay for ourselves). I said yes and then mentioned I would probably get a fast pass as my son is autistic and would really struggle with the queues. Friend then seemed offended and said "what so I would queue and you wouldn't?".
I understand her side of things because essentially it means we wouldn't be fully going "together" just meeting up at different points. And going on rides together and viewing things with no queue.
But I don't think it would be an enjoyable day for anyone if we tried to make hour long queues work with my son.
As to not drip feed, we will most likely get the fast pass for free with an application to the park due to disability.
Also we are part of a larger friendship group where more families can be invited so they are not being forced to spend it alone by choosing to invite us.
I feel it's the right decision for my family but have a pang of guilt that it is not fair to them. I don't think it's financially viable for them to get the pass (and we couldn't afford to get it for them either).
So...
YABU your friend invited you. Either go together as they intended or turn it down.
YANBU your friend should be understanding in this matter and realise it is better for everyone this way.