How do I best support her? She's 29 and this will be her third child, first with this man. She only told me last week and is 26 weeks. I know he beats her up and I've spoken to her at length about it, tried to convince her to leave, she knows I'm here if she needs help, she claims he loves her and is changing. He's not, I know he isn't. I feel like I can't spend time with her when he is around but he's so controlling that I can only really see them at her house together. I feel like I have to be nice to him because he will take it out on her if not. I just feel so weird about it. I love her and know she is in a complete haze of control by him. Should I just keep on being there? Humour him by being nice when he's around? I feel completely helpless to support her.