To think “miscarriage jewellery” is sick?

Mellymoon · 2023-01-26T14:40:27+00:00

It won’t let me upload a picture and it’s quite graphic but basically they are models of embryos and early foetuses encased in resin. firstly who wants to picture and remember their baby like that? Looking like deformed aliens and secondly wearing that would force and trigger other women of their miscarriages. They look hideous.. I think Is nothing sacred anymore?

Thepeopleversuswork · 26/01/2023 14:44

Lord above is that a thing?

Thats mawkish as fuck.

DulcetTones · 26/01/2023 14:45

I haven't seen that type of jewellery, and it sounds like it wouldn't be for me, but if it helps someone by "memorialising" their lost baby, I don't see that it's any of my business. I think the ReBorn (?) dolls are often rather creepy to look at, too, but they aren't for me. If they help someone else, it's none of my concern.

Galadriel90 · 26/01/2023 14:47

It's not for me but if it helps someone else with grieving then who am I to judge them?

Soubriquet · 26/01/2023 14:49

Goodness me…that seems graphic.

I’ve had miscarriages. 4 in fact, including one set of twins but I don’t think I could ever put them in jewellery and wear them

GreenIsle · 26/01/2023 14:50

They are fake embryos though aren't they, not the actual human remains. Some might find it comforting but I would say only for private use, I agree it could upset or trigger someone else and I would not like to see it.

x2boys · 26/01/2023 14:50

I, m fortunate never to.have had a,miscarriage ,and it's not something I would do but it it gives comfort to.those that.wear them it's not for me to.judge .

PicaK · 26/01/2023 14:52

Took me some searching but I found them. They're beautiful.
I don't need one now but i could see I would have found comfort in wearing one at one point.
And the more miscarriage stigma is done away with the better tbh

ChillysWaterBottle · 26/01/2023 14:54

People grieve in different ways. This would not be for me but I wouldn't judge someone else who found comfort in it.

Skinnermarink · 26/01/2023 14:55

It’s not the actual embryo is it, it’s a mock up. Can’t be the real thing, the last thing I’d have thought of doing during mine is fishing for the poor sorry matter in the loo in the hopes of making a necklace.

Sirzy · 26/01/2023 14:56

Not something I think I would ever consider but if it gives someone else comfort then what is the problem?

OhhhhhhhhBiscuits · 26/01/2023 14:56

Galadriel90 · 26/01/2023 14:47

It's not for me but if it helps someone else with grieving then who am I to judge them?

This!

People grieve in different ways. I have had 3 miscarriages incl one very late and this wouldn't be for me, but if it helps someone then that's OK.

Swimswam · 26/01/2023 14:57

My question would be why do you think unborn babies look like deformed aliens? That’s a pretty dramatic and unpleasant way to describe an unborn human.
Toddlers don’t look much like elderly people. We don’t describe either of them in such dehumanizing ways.

Soubriquet · 26/01/2023 14:58

Swimswam · 26/01/2023 14:57

My question would be why do you think unborn babies look like deformed aliens? That’s a pretty dramatic and unpleasant way to describe an unborn human.
Toddlers don’t look much like elderly people. We don’t describe either of them in such dehumanizing ways.

But embryos do look like little aliens

Slowingdownagain · 26/01/2023 14:59

It woulnd't be for me, but I would not judge someone else for how they coped with their loss. And I think YABU for doing so.

Mylaferret · 26/01/2023 15:01

I think this thread is awful. You're not just asking people what they think but judging other women for how they wish to deal with their miscarriage and saying it's sick. Don't want one, don't get one but there's no need to be so nasty.

MRSDoos · 26/01/2023 15:03

I’ve had miscarriages including one last year of a twin pregnancy. I personally haven’t ordered any of the miscarriage jewellery but I can understand why some do. I have small memory boxes for my angel babies but with miscarriages, especially early on you do not have many memories to show. If some grieving parents find comfort in ordering this jewellery and ordering an embryo in the gestation they lost their baby then that’s their choice.

I think your OP is very judgemental and in all honesty quite insensitive. LET PEOPLE GREIVE HOW THEY CHOOSE TOO!!

MrsBennetsPoorNerves · 26/01/2023 15:05

They sound awful, and as someone who has experienced miscarriage, I wouldn't ever want to wear anything like this. However, I voted yabu because it's none of your business, or mine, how others choose to mark their grief.

Trinity65 · 26/01/2023 15:08

One persons ghastly is another persons idea of touching art.

Its not for Me but its obviously for others and we all grieve and mourn differently
I wanted some of my Dad's ashes put into a Ring but others think that is morbid. Each to their own.

Thepeopleversuswork · 26/01/2023 15:11

Mylaferret · 26/01/2023 15:01

I think this thread is awful. You're not just asking people what they think but judging other women for how they wish to deal with their miscarriage and saying it's sick. Don't want one, don't get one but there's no need to be so nasty.

I agree people should grieve as they see fit etc and maybe the OP phrased this tactlessly.

But for me grief is an intensively private thing and the public nature of this means you are more or less forcing other people to participate in your grief in a way which I find a bit intrusive and a bit coercive. You have the right to grieve the early death of a baby with people you trust but not to force this on people who aren't involved.

Also the forced sentiment of it is overpowering and incredibly tasteless. It would make me feel quite coopted and very creeped out if someone I knew was wearing something like this.

MRSDoos · 26/01/2023 15:22

@Thepeopleversuswork I can’t understand how wearing a ring or necklace with say a resin embryo, or ashes of a loved one is “forcing others to grieve with you”?

MRSDoos · 26/01/2023 15:24

@Thepeopleversuswork I know a woman who has lost 2 child sons and wears 2 rings with their ashes in. Shall I tell her she’s being overbearing and tackless? Or that her wearing a small piece of jewellery is making others feel forced into grieving with her.

Thepeopleversuswork · 26/01/2023 15:28

@MRSDoos

Maybe I'm being uptight and closed-minded but I would feel very uncomfortable if I was talking to someone who was wearing a preserved embryo around their neck.

If you don't want it to be commented on publicly why do it?

Also why does it have to be so visceral? A simple locket or a ring engraved with the baby's name (or whatever) is fine. An actual preserved embryo or a resin model? Its cheaply sentimental and tasteless I think. Sorry if that offends anyone but, no.

barbiesshrimp · 26/01/2023 15:29

MRSDoos · 26/01/2023 15:24

@Thepeopleversuswork I know a woman who has lost 2 child sons and wears 2 rings with their ashes in. Shall I tell her she’s being overbearing and tackless? Or that her wearing a small piece of jewellery is making others feel forced into grieving with her.

I'm not entirely sure what this foetus necklace looks like as no picture but wearing a visible fetus isn't the same as ashes.

Nobody would know it's ashes for a start and it's not a formed body (not sure how to describe)

barbiesshrimp · 26/01/2023 15:30

You have to ask about it if someone is wearing an embryo, and it's just... right there, you know?

thestealthwee · 26/01/2023 15:33

I've had a lot of miscarriages - I'm very open and honest about them but I have to say wearing a very visible piece of jewellery like you have described I'd find a bit ghoulish. That being said I know lots of women who have tattoos in remembrance of miscarried babies and I don't like them either it's just personal taste