Sharing on behalf of a friend
What would you do?
So we have a group of friends. Started off by our partners and the girlfriends soon became friends too. At one point we were all quite close but this has drifted a little over the past year. There are still get togethers here and there.
One of the men has recently in the past year or so got a new girlfriend and she’d pregnant, soon to give birth.
A few months ago the man in question messaged my friend basically telling her he fancied her and has done for ages etc. He had clearly had a drink. My friend was very shocked at these comments and thought it must be a wind up as he was with some friends. She thought maybe someone was on his phone? She questioned this and left it at that - feeling quite confused.
Since then it’s happened a few times and recently Saturday night. My friend doesn’t want the drama but feels like his girlfriend should know. Problem is she’s about to give birth and she really doesn’t want to put her through the stress at this time in her life. She doesn’t want to ruin this experience of having her first baby with her partner. I don’t know what advice to give her. She knows her partner is betraying her but she doesn’t want to upset the girlfriend. We went to her baby shower so she has become a new friend to us. She said if it happens again she is tempted to tell her. Also her last messages to him were along the lines of stop messaging me this you have a baby on the way etc.
What do you do in this situation?
AIBU VOTE
YES- she should have told her / tell her
NO- she should hold back this info due to circumstances but distance herself from the man in question