To not cancel my plans?

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Long story short, 6 weeks ago I made plans to go for a night out in London with a group of friends that I don't get to see all that often. Every couple months maybe, although I may see one or two more often than that.

My husband has just let me know that his father is coming over from Florida for a visit the day before my dinner. We have not seen him in 4 years.

Husband is annoyed with me that I won't be cancelling my plans the following evening and says I'm selfish and inconsiderate and that he would never dream of going out if one or both of my parents were over (they also do not live int he U.K.) I have explained to him that his father will likely be jet lagged from travelling the day prior and would go to bed early on the evening of my night out anyway. If he stays up, my husband and his dad

YANBU at all. Presumably his father is staying more than one night? You’ll have plenty of time to see him.

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But him and his dad will just chat and sit around and I will have nothing much to add to the conversation that can't be added another time. He's staying for 2 weeks.

So, AIBU for not cancelling my plans? He insists that any normal person would stay home when a visitor is coming.

It will be nice for them to spend some father/son time together, and then you can catch up with him the next day. Ideal.

If it’s just the one night Yabu, if he’s around for longer then yanbu. However I can see his point. It would be a nice thing to do to make him feel welcome.

I wouldn’t cancel he’s there for two weeks!

YANBU at all. If he is staying two weeks there is plenty of time to spend in his company after your night out.

Throw it back at him. “A normal person would check if their DP would be home before arranging something they need them to be there for.”

YANBU X

I think you are ok to go out. Your plans were made before you knew he was coming, and you are right, he may be jet lagged and they can have a quiet night in.

Thank you!! He's such an ass sometimes. I think the real issue stems to him not agreeing with me going out and having a nice time without him. Thing is he doesn't like going out and is too cheap to take me out. It took quite a while for my friend group to all find a suitable date that worked for everyone as well and then make the necessary arrangements and reservations for the night. He already had an issue with me going out before his dad made plans to visit because we're going out on the night we usually have a takeaway

He then proceeded to tell me X or Y friend would never do that. And when I proved him wrong with examples he flipped the argument back on me to do with how stressed he is and how I do nothing and make way less money than him