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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

To ask, have you ever just not fit in at a job?

4 replies

rockbottomagain · 24/01/2023 20:10

I've always been shy/quiet but usually warm up to people quite quickly. In my previous job my colleagues would have probably said I was a quieter member of the team but still friendly and I had friends at work. I had people I'd sit with at lunch and would approach people and make conversation, and join the socials.

At my current job, I just don't fit in. I can't explain it, there is just a fundamental mismatch. I go into the office 2 days a week and on the way home I feel tearful as I feel like such an awkward outsider there. Even when I've forced myself to get involved I am deeply uncomfortable. They are all my age (20s-30s) with a similar background, but I just feel disliked there even though they've not given me any reason to prove they dislike me.

Has anyone else felt like this? It's worrying me that there's something wrong with me socially.

OP posts:
swapcicles · 24/01/2023 20:14

Yes, although I've usually found at least one person to chat too on break ect.
Sometimes workplaces are very cliquey and hard to break into.
Is there one person you could chat too? Similar age or role or anything really?

workiskillingme · 24/01/2023 20:16

Yes but only with a certain in group that's occurring at work at the moment - a few new people have started and split the dynamic and they make me feel very out of place

TheBirdintheCave · 24/01/2023 20:31

Yes, it was a maternity leave cover job and my personality did not fit with the rest of the team at all. I became so depressed that I would dread going to work and eventually had my contract amicably terminated three months in as I think my manager agreed that I wasn't a good fit and could see that I was miserable.

Mum97540 · 24/01/2023 20:33

Yes. But completely resolved by moving department. Can you move at all?

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