Mil and boundaries

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I'm not a mil hater but fuck me she's pissing me off. I'm back in the office three days a week, she's in our house twice a week to let y7 Dts in.

Saw her on Ring today, she arrived at my house at 0915, left for pick up at 1445. WTAF is she doing in my house for that long?! It's MY house, not hers, do t want her in it. I'm not articulating myself herby well but I'm just pissed off.

Why don’t you just ask her? I couldn’t let that go.

Why does she need to be there to let your DC in?
Give the DC a key?

Maybe she’s running a secret OnlyFans business from your bedroom…🤣

She's obviously putting your heating on full bung and reveling in the warmth without the worry of paying for it.

Lol. I'd say watching TV, avoiding heating bills at home, having a change of scenery, having a break from retired husband who's a bit of a dick. Well that's why mine doesn't have a key!

She ll be mortified if you bring it up, but it's cheeky. I'd monitor it closely, then make up something about being allowed to nip home sometimes.

Why can’t the let themselves in? Problem solved

Start saying hello loudly over the ring camera as she walks up! She'll know she's been spotted then.

I know she's doing you a favour, but that's taking the mick totally! I'd hate anyone wandering round in my house for that long alone.

Your children can let themselves into their own house. If you are worried they will lose the key attach it to one of those retractable key fobs or a long piece of elastic and either safety pin that into their bag, sew it in or attach it to a loop that are sometimes found in bags.

They get in, lock the front door and then turn the alarm off. Thousands of children do this every day from year 7 onwards. There is no need for your MIL to be in your house for that length of time and I would be telling her she is not to do it.

Knock this on the head right now. She could be snooping through your drawers ?! Tell her you have seen her arrive early on the ring door bell, and it’s not necessary for her to be there so early. Be honest and straight talking.

Do u have sky or virgin TV and she doesn't?
Is she cleaning?

Is she saving on heating her house?

Next time she's round leave her a note with a list of jobs to do and say 'I noticed last time you were here you stayed all day so I thought you might as well make yourself useful'.
Seriously though, call her out on it. Or give your kids a key.

First thought was that she's struggling paying her heating bills.

You could..... ask here?

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This is why my y7 DC has a key. She does refuse to put it on a keyring and hasn't lost it yet (by some act of God). She's lost her bank card, student card, numerous times but not the very expensive to cut key yet. @BevMarsh yes I wondered the same.

We got our y7 a key safe with a code. Works well. Bet she's rifling through your knicker drawer commenting on the state of your bloomers.

Joking aside, it's very odd she is in your house all day. I'd do what pp said and shout 'hello, is everything okay? when she appears on camera.

Only 11, don't trust them not to let the dog out / not shut the front door / burn the house down with a tik tok hack..

Please fuck no!!!

So is the dog there alone all day if she isn’t? Maybe she feels bad for it…

alternatively you either pay for after school care? It’ll be short lived, surely they’ll be ok to be left soon

Ask her son to ask her what she was doing in the house all day. Did you discuss it with him?

If she does it again and isnt technology savvy I'd text and say I don't suppose you're round at my house? I'm sure you wouldn't be at this time but my app told me someone is home and before I explode at my kids for playing hooky I just wanted to check if it was you as you're the only other person to have a key..

So she isn’t just letting your daughter in, she is baby sitting.