Hen do or don’t

[Curiousness]

Have been invited to a hen do (whole weekend away from home, so expensive, not just a night out) but only invited to the evening party of the wedding.

To me if you’re invited to the hen you should also be invited to the actual wedding??

Had something similar a few years back with another friend, is this the norm?

Thoughts??

As it is an expensive event and you are only invited to the evening event, I would give it a miss

Thoughts? I'd say you were making up the numbers to make it cheaper per person and more of a 'do' for the hen.
(Unless of coursebits an intimate wedding with 200 guests)
On the positive, the bride has a good enough option of you to think you'll be good company and get on with the others so if it's something you'd enjoy and can afford it, go for it.

Thoughts??

That you're putting way too much thought into it. Just go if you want to. Don't if you don't.

I agree that if you'll enjoy it, go. Like a pp until my mid 40's, I'd take every invite I could. Weddings are expensive. If you invite more people, you need a bigger venue and costs spiral. These days I'm not insulted by not being invited.

I like hens where it's a load of strangers instead of the work group, the school group, the cousins, the college group. And no group integrates. My best friend has loads of one to one friendships and very few packs. Her hen was great, we all got on really well.

@StephanieSuperpowers the evening do is not always a waste of time! We went to an evening do a couple of months ago & had a great time dancing & drinking with our friends. There was a good evening buffet too. Due to only 60 people, including b&g, at the day do we never expected to be invited all day. Circumstances like this wouldn't put me off the hen do

Wouldn't occur to me to be offended. I've been to a few hens and only to the evening.
I would base my decision on whether I wanted to go or not to the hen. And whether I could justify or afford it. If i didn't want to I wouldn't go.
We had a destination wedding that we couldn't possibly have invited everyone to. I had plenty at my hen that were not invited. My friends come in groups so can't invite one, have to invite 8 or whatever plus partners. It just isn't always possible. None of my hen friends were bothered. My hen was a cheap do though not a weekend away.