To react this way to the thought of going back to work?

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I'm on leave. Today I was contacted by work about something minor which someone else could have dealt with whilst I was off. I wasn't impressed at all, but moreso because I really struggle to detach whilst I'm there. I've had such a nice, needed break away - I rarely cry but ended up crying quite a bit afterwards and it's ruined my day to be honest, I know THAT is unreasonable but I bloody hate it there :( I really, really am not looking forward to going back at all. I'm in a public facing, thankless role that nobody can do and I've spent years trying. Stuff like this ( being contacted at home ) is typical of the way it all works there and it's just not great, nor does the money we earn for what we do in any way compensate for the stress. Is this a sign I need to finally quit and apply elsewhere even though it's all I've ever known or is it normal to feel like this when on leave and won't feel so bad when I'm back? I know the grass isn't always greener but I've been been happy whilst off and the contrast in my mood just from thinking of work is not feasible anymore. I'm wondering if all jobs feel this way? Not sure what I'm asking tbh just needed a rant :( Feel like I'm back to reality and it's rubbish.

Why didn't you just disconnect the call once you realised it was work? That's what I would have done (and have done). Definitely sounds like you need a new job though. Good luck.

Get a new job. Jesus, you poor thing. You should not be crying over a phone call - clearly something is very wrong and needs to change.

Thank you I so should have done you're right. I would have worried endlessly about it after though and the supervisor's can be quite persistent. Thanks for replying I'll start having a think about what I want to do.

Thank you I'm glad it isn't the norm! I'm resilient and happy with all other areas of my life, feeling better now but yes I do need to get a new job don't I? Thank you for replying

What do you do for a living? Could you do an application or two this afternoon? Channel your feelings right now into fixing the problem and the day can still end well.

Definitely look for a new job. They shouldn't be ringing you whilst you are on leave in the first place, that's taking the mick. Also it shouldn't be more than irritating - if it's upset you enough to make you cry then it's either an awful place to work or so very much the wrong job for you (or both) and either way I think you should look for something else. I wouldn't expect to love my job generally speaking however it should be tolerable and able to switch off. If you hate it, it makes you miserable or affects you outside of work hours then if possible you need to find an alternative. Life is too short to spend so much time stressed like that. Good luck x

Thank you, its quite a niche role but essentially I'm in a big team that investigates concerns, misconduct, genuine accidents and health and safety and basically everything inbetween within certain places that offer care in a certain field usually to very poorly people. I've stuck it out for that reason until now as the job itself has potential to be really rewarding but in my position I'm not high enough up the chain to have a real impact and basically end up doing a lot of the admin, loads and loads of admin and time consuming bum saving for the team instead of getting results. There's also a lot of politics in office which needn't be there if we all focused on the greater good that could be achieved. That said I suppose a lot of the skills from it are easily transferable. Very good idea about getting applications off this evening, sometimes I think you need these moments of borderline despair to make a change. Thank you

Thanks lovely I completely agree, whether it's that I'm just not the right character for the job and what it really is or whether the job itself is dreadful its not working is it, time for a change

Definitely look for a new job.

In the meantime, I've a couple of friends with responsible jobs who let it be known that they will be holidaying in wild areas, so no phone signal. One I believe actually does, but the other lies through her teeth to make sure she has a good excuse for not answering the phone.

Get out sooner rather than later as it may keep eroding you, your confidence and resilience.

If you reach that point, it is time to job search. There is another role out there that won’t be so demoralizing. Try to stick it out in your current one while you search so that you can be picky .

You need a dual sim phone. One for work and one for personal. Then set work one to go automatically to voicemail when on leave

Leave, life is too short to be upset by going back to work.

When I realised I needed to leave my job was on a Sunday and I really dreaded going back to work on the Monday, I quickly got out of there.

Thanks so much everyone for your replies - feeling brighter and have been brainstorming and researching new paths all day. Surprisingly more jobs out there than I realised! Thanks all