I keep getting at Dd

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Feeling so guilty most days as I feel i’m always telling Dd, 4, 6 off recently.
She just doesn’t listen to anything I say, is disobedient, rude at times, shouts and hits sometimes. She’s also v bright, v sweet and loving and we adore her. I just feel she never stops doing things she’s not supposed to…annoying the dog or jumping and climbing all over the sofa, getting food out of the fridge etc etc. She’s very intense and extra.
I realise these are probably things kids this age do?
End up feeling really guilty every night for not having more patience with her 😒

@Shutupyoutart She does struggle to control her emotions, we’re really trying to help her with that. She lacks patience and gets angry if she can’t do something etc-but again, this can be an age thing too? I’m not sure

If saying the words on repeat doesn't work and counting does, you absolutely can.
Amelia, put the door back and come out of the fridge.....Amelia,5! 4! Thank you for doing as I asked.

What is it about building forts and climbing over them that annoys you?

@SleepingStandingUp It’s just the repetition I think, I feel so bad but inside I feel irritated. She will just go around and around and around again and again and again

That's very common. Do you push through get her to keep walking or go home? I'll tell DC we need to keep walking as I know they still have energy to get out. You could try putting on music and encouraging her to dance instead of jump. I find redirection more useful at this age, a firm "we don't jump on furniture" followed by some redirection, "if your body feels like it needs to jump you can jump it out on the trampoline, if you're feeling wiggly we can put some music on you can dance to."

Sensory seeking behaviour can be a sign of ADHD or ASD, but children can be sensory seeking or sensory avoidant without being ND. If she's seeking increased sensory movement input that means her body is probably under reactive to movement.

Climbers and jumpers are looking for vestibular and proprioceptive input. It helps them know where their body is, gives them the feedback they need. If you google things like alternative sensory activities for climbers and jumpers or vestibular/proprioceptive input for jumpers you'll find a lot of ideas to work through. My jumper likes swinging and spinning. You can get toys that provide these inputs, sensory swings can go indoors if you have room.

If losing her weekend allowance affects her, use that. Get a clear plastic container with a lid. Put her weekly allowance in the container, broken into small amounts, pennies, dimes, etc. Tell her every time she bothers the dog, she will lose one coin. When she bothers the dog, take her to the container and have her remove a coin and put it in a piggy bank to buy treats for the dog. As she visually SEES her money disappear and given to the dog, she will think twice.
On the weekend, take her to spend what money (if any) she has left and they let her use the piggybank money to buy the dog a toy or treat.

Read your 4 year old wild and wonderful louise ames bates. You re not alone it's testing! Getting outside helps or a kids you tube dance video for 10min

I'm not sure I’d do this - she might end up resenting the dog which could cause future issues.

You don’t need to tell her off for any little thing she does that you don’t like or agree with. Otherwise when it is actually something that matters she won’t listen as it’ll be oh moms just moaning as usual.

some things kids do u just got to tolerate. Kids aren’t like adults they aren’t meant to sit still, adults don’t want to jump on the sofa kids do.

Sounds like you need to learn to lick your battles