So I want some advice please, quite a back story here so bare with me.
My sister is reaching 30yo, has moved around alot, 2 years ago fell in with a man on Tinder, she was gushing about how nice he was etc etc so we were all delighted for her. Asked what he did and was told he was an engineer, a few weeks later we were told he was in the military-no big deal we didn't care what he did. She said he didn't want to tell us as we live in NI and people in the military can be viewed 1 of 2 ways here - our family personally don't have an issue with it. Anyway she was living with my parents at the time and he ended up staying there most weekend (our family is quite traditional and I was shocked they allowed him to stay over but I guess they were just happy she was happy). Whilst there he made himself at home very quickly, asked mum to clear a drawer in the fridge for his stuff which she did, was rude to my father and brother numerous times when they both tried to make an effort. My family are Christians and he cursed infront of them alot and made crude jokes etc even after she asked him not to he nearly continued even more. He has always played mind games with her and this seems to have gotten worse recently. She won't discuss it with me but my other sister has told me some things he has said (example... he said infront of both my sisters he was gona stop listening to podcasts as they made him think too much, had listened to one which said if you didn't wana be married to someone you'd been with for 2 years you should split up with them, quite hurtful I thought). They rent a flat off my parents and pay minimal rent but I'm sure he isn't paying anything and she's paying it all.
I get so frustrated as in her eyes he can do no wrong but he's not the man for her and I know I can't say anything as it's her life but I just know it's gona end in tears and it makes me so worried for her.
There's a tonne more stuff I could write but the post will never end! Any comments/advice welcome!