What triggers your grief?

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My dad died many many years ago of a heart attack.

I still miss him but I can enjoy talking about him, looking at photos etc and reminiscing.

I was on a First Aid training course last week and they started to teach us how to do CPR on a dummy in the event of a heart attack.

This proved to be a trigger for me and out of nowhere I just started crying and had to leave the room. People looked somewhat awkward when I rejoined as I apologised and explained what had happened.

Has anything like this triggered you?

The queen's death, probably how they all rallied to be with her for her last moments.

@TheHolyGrailSpeaks I used to take her to see concerts of Andy Williams, the Glen Miller Story, war time songs. I miss going to those now. Nobody of my age seems to know those songs.

Sorry for your loss. My mum died 15 years ago, and I still get triggered. Lots of things really, but TV programs about cancer mainly. Especially if a mother/ daughter element. Sometimes it's small things. Also time of year.

I'm very sorry for your loss OP - and for others on this thread.

with my brother' death it was the sound of a telephone ringing - because I got a phone call early in the morning telling me he had died. For several years after, the sound of a phone ringing even in a shop or in someone else's house made me feel physically sick, I could hardly bring myself to answer the phone in my own house - had to get my husband to do it.

with my parents - mostly music - the music they had at their funerals, music they loved. My Mum died in November last year - she chose a Christmas carol to be played at her funeral - and obviously it gets played a lot around Christmas - so I kept hearing it when I was out -salvation army bands etc playing in the town square.

But often for all of them it is something totally unpredictable - a phrase or a memory or even a smell (my dad smelled of soap and woolly jumpers when he hugged me and I can smell it in my head if I close my eyes).
The grief for my Mum is still very raw and anything, everything and nothing can set me off. Grief is a strange thing - I don't believe you ever really 'get over' loss, you get through it, you get used to it, but it never really goes away.

doing CPR at work after seeing CPR on my parent. Poor choice of career as it’s my bread and butter. Not sure what the future holds