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Feel like I'm going to regret going for a promotion

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LaraWearsZara · 22/01/2023 17:15

I've always really loved my job. It's one of the lower down roles at the company I work for but the money is still good.
After a decade, i have just changed roles to do something very different within the same business and the pace is so much slower I'm finding it boring. The job is okay and the work I am doing is rewarding due to the impact it has elsewhere - but I miss being really busy. On my WFH days i pretty much do nothing (i did tell my boss this and he said to keep quiet about it/likely will get busier eventially etc). The issue is I was advised to move to this role as it was much easier for me to get promoted. The other area I was in, there were a lot of us doing the same role and promotions were rare.
I'm now at the point where I've been approached about a promotion and I'm really worried. My salary will go up around 7k a year, which I really really need right now. But it also means no going back to the job I always loved as I'd never be able to take the pay cut.
I can't sleep at night for worrying about what to do. My heart isn't in this new job but my boss has pretty much said that the promotion is mine if I want it.
My DH thinks I am being selfish if I don't do it (because I work part time as it is - which is a sore point for him). We have 2 young dc and money is very tight currently. I work 4 days at present and would struggle to increase due to commitments straight from DC1s school 3 days a week.
I don't know what to do 🙁 if anyone else has any advice I would be very grateful. Do I take the promotion and risk being bored forever or do I go back to the role I loved and keep struggling for money.

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LadyWithLapdog · 22/01/2023 17:19

Take the promotion. Get the job title and experience and then move jobs if it’s unbearable.

theworkwasthething · 22/01/2023 17:19

If your DH wants you to take the promotion, he needs to work with you to plan out the extra childcare needs.

7k extra is a decent amount, but it does depend on tax bracket and pension contributions, etc. Is the enough per month to make a substantial difference, especially with childcare added in?

Do the sums, then consider your options.

theworkwasthething · 22/01/2023 17:24

LadyWithLapdog · 22/01/2023 17:19

Take the promotion. Get the job title and experience and then move jobs if it’s unbearable.

I also agree with this, and it's what I would do. And will do, when the time is right for me - internal moves are less lucrative than changing orgs. I've seen my job role advertised for 10k more elsewhere, but I need to stay for a few more years before I jump ship. In the meantime I'm wringing as much experience as possible out of it.

Oblomov22 · 22/01/2023 17:26

Take the promotion. If it doesn't work out, set a date to review.

LaraWearsZara · 22/01/2023 18:15

OK, thank you for the advice. I'll keep ploughing forward and hope it works out and that I get busier. I know it's the right thing to do in my head. My heart just feels sad that I miss my old role so much

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