Got a 3 year old DS, he largely sleeps through the night but at least 3 times a wake wil shout for me and I end up in his bed. I wake.up with him every morning.
Partner games until 2am every night. I go to bed earlier as I'm up with the children and work. I listen out for our son on the monitor, meaning if he wakes/stirs/coughs in the night,.I'm always disturbed. He also wakes me every night when he comes in, his phone on extra bright as he wanders around, loudly rustling through drawers, sometimes in and out a few times. I think he does it on purpose.
Partner not once got up with son in the night.
I started asking for an occasional lie in, maybe once a fortnight but it's hardly worth it. Partner comes in and out of the bedroom and he is downstairs talking loud/shouting at our son/shouting from one room to another. So I never sleep. Whereas when I get up, I sneak out of the room, my son and I are quiet and he doesn't even know I've left the room! So be gets undisturbed sleep.
Last night son has a cough. I go to bed early because as a normal person, I anticipate that I'll be awake early because our son is coughing. However I've become a rubbish sleeper, I think it's the unconscious anticipation of being woken at 2am by partner and also knowing I'm always listening out for our son.
DS coughing loads, so I don't sleep as I'm awaiting him waking me. 5am he shouts for me, I try and sleep next to him but he was coughing non stop and sick twice, so had to change sheets. I've been up since 5am...I text partner and say it's not fair he's up all night on Xbox and I am always up with our soon. He came down at 9am and said I can go back to bed and said this "staggered approach works great".
Staggered approach!!!
So he is up all night on Xbox, never wakes in the night or listens for our son and then wakes when he feels like it then kindly takes over for 2 hours for me to "sleep".
I am up in the night, so broken sleep and then up in the morning and then he wonders down after breakfast etc is done, sits on his phone with our son on a tablet, whilst I sleep. I never get back to sleep. I've said it's not fair. I'd like to be able to stay in bed.
Also, this approach doesn't work as I'm up before him all week. I work and do school/nursery drop offs, so have no chance for a lie in all week.
Also to note, I work twice as many hours as he does. He works from home from 1pm. So can always go back to bed once our son is in nursery and me in work.
Partner alwaysa wakes up complaining he's only had 4/5 hours of sleep. Blames his back but he was up until 3am the other morning! What does he expect.
I've not been well. I'm having chronic headaches, having some investigation for bowel issues, keep getting deficiencies and am just absolutely exhausted all the time. I woke up today and wanted to cry as I know I've no hope of catching up on sleep all week.
Oh and when I go downstairs the house will be a tip.
I completely resent my partner.
AIBU?