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To be broody already!!??

16 replies

littlepurplerose · 22/01/2023 08:17

I have a 5 month old baby girl (my first)

And.... I'm already getting broody- help!!!

I didn't expect to be broody so soon but I keep fantasising about getting pregnant again. I just think it would be gorgeous to have 2 babies so close in age who could grow up being like little besties!

Pros and cons?!

Try and talk me out of the idea?!

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Fairylightsandstuff · 22/01/2023 08:21

I’ve got 8 and my smallest age gap is 10 and a half months so I’m probably not the best person to talk you out of it 😂 (or maybe I am!?)

I love my family and wouldn’t ever change it but it’s not for everyone. I would say I am unusually patient, organised and resilient. I wouldn’t recommend having babies close together unless you 100% know you only want two and you want to “get it out the way” all at once.

BeastOfBODMAS · 22/01/2023 08:23

I had this around the same time and it was definitely hormonal.
DD is now 1 and whilst I’m looking forward to another at some point, it’s no longer a burning need

GoodChat · 22/01/2023 08:24

Give it another 5 months until she's starting to walk and see how you feel

Slimjimtobe · 22/01/2023 08:25

I was broody within 7 days (obviously didn’t act on it) but ttc once baby was three or four months and got pregnant two weeks later

had a year of trying for the first so it was a shock

Slimjimtobe · 22/01/2023 08:26

In answer to your question the small gap worked perfectly! Decade on its great

astronewt · 22/01/2023 08:28

It's just your hormones. It happens to most people after a birth.

Do you really want to be doing broken nights while a limp exhausted rag from pregnancy? Having both a newborn and a very young preverbal toddler screaming at you at once? Both of them needing changed and carried at once? If so... well, knock yourself out, but your hormones are idiots and I wouldn't recommend leaving them in charge.

Squamata · 22/01/2023 08:28

There's no guarantee your babies will get on, they're individuals and it's basically throwing the dice and hoping they're compatible people. I only really realised how individual my dc1 was when I had dc2. I thought she did baby things but it was really strongly shaped by her personality!

Your body doesn't fully recover from pregnancy for at least a year (eg mineral and vitamin stores in your body are drained during pregnancy, you'd start the next pregnancy with a nutrient deficiency that be worsened by pregnancy.)

5 month olds are adorable, it's a sweet spot where they can engage but aren't very mobile yet. Pregnancy with a tottering one year old who wants to be walked around everywhere the whole time is a different ball game, as is having a newborn with a 1.5 year old just starting to tantrum.

There's something to be said for siblings close together but also a lot to be said against! I think having the eldest happy in nursery and out of the house for a chunk of the time is a good sanity saver so you attempt to nap when the baby does etc.

I was home with a baby and toddler in the pandemic, there was no sleep and it was exhausting!

Squamata · 22/01/2023 08:31

I think also two close together means you're so sleep deprived and busy that you don't get to sit back and appreciate what's happening. It's harder to form memories when you're sleep deprived, the first year with dc2 is a bit of a blur. So you might not remember much!

BunchHarman · 22/01/2023 09:05

Fairylightsandstuff · 22/01/2023 08:21

I’ve got 8 and my smallest age gap is 10 and a half months so I’m probably not the best person to talk you out of it 😂 (or maybe I am!?)

Christ. I don’t think I’ve ever related to a person less. 🫢

UnaVaca · 22/01/2023 09:06

Are you going back to work? Look at the cost of nursery fees. Then double. Can you afford it?

LaLuz7 · 22/01/2023 09:11

It would be anything but gorgeous to have 2 under 2 to care for. That much is obvious.

Fairylightsandstuff · 22/01/2023 09:37

BunchHarman · 22/01/2023 09:05

Christ. I don’t think I’ve ever related to a person less. 🫢

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I get that reaction a lot tbh 😆

RayaRyder · 22/01/2023 09:38

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QueenoftheNimbleFlyingCat · 22/01/2023 09:52

I had this with both my DC. I did want a small gap between my 2 and actively ttc at 9 months with my first. It's hard work being pregnant with a baby and having 2 with a small age gap but totally worth it!

I'm just glad I didn't act on my overwhelming broodiness with my second.

BaileySharp · 22/01/2023 09:55

If it helps most siblings I know close in age fight a lot and aren't best friends

Rabbitheadlights · 22/01/2023 10:32

I'll start by saying it takes all sorts and what is right for one, isn't necessarily right for another.

Now I have 8 first 3 with standard age gaps 2/3 years and 4 years. Then I have the younger 5 ages 7,6,4,3 and 3months. It's hectic and non stop and you will not get enough sleep, but it's also great fun, and funny to watch them together they are all so close (they have their moments obvs) but I definitely wouldn't change it.

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