Inappropriate teacher?

[Somewhereovertherainbow85]

My 6 year old has a favourite teacher. she talks about this teacher a lot, however she keeps telling some strange things the teacher has told her, such as…

”miss (blank) said her daughter is very sad at the minute as her husband likes another girl that’s not his wife” or “I asked miss (blank) if she had a good new year & she said she’d been naughty at new year because she had a cigarette”

I’m finding these really weird to tell a 6 year old, especially a teacher. I feel like complaining but I don’t want my child to be treated differently as she’s so fond of this teacher.

I’m really not sure how to feel! AIBU to be so annoyed at this teacher?!!

If the teacher actually saud it, it is weird.

Please don't just take your daughter's word at face value, though. Kids can and do say odd things. For instance, yesterday my daughter accused me of only caring about my "one true love" (AKA daddy) and not her. I was like... okay, I literally do everything for you and shower you with affection while ignoring you dad. But whatever.

They are bizarre things to make up. Children lie all the time but can't make up things they know nothing about - my DCs are a bit older and hardly know what cigarettes are. These could have come from a child whose parent had told their DC though.

My DS is in specialist school and was previously getting a taxi home with boys of 14-15. DS (10) told us one boy said he has a gun ("do you think he might have been making that up DS" - we live in the rural NW not a gun crime capital!) but another one "keeps trying to tickle me" which from a boy 4-5 years older was just odd and inappropriate which the school agreed with.

Many schools are developing 'Low level concerns' policies and this is the sort of thing that would absolutely fall under that bracket. Basically, it is inappropriate behaviour that is pushing boundaries, and for the sake of the teacher as well as their pupils it needs nipping in the bud. Staff welfare issues are well known to be a risk factor for safeguarding issues. I'm not saying this teacher is a risk to your child, but she is clearly not coping very well and oversharing and needs some support and advice in order to adjust her behaviour around her pupils. Treat it as a concern rather than a complaint and you should get a sympathetic hearing from the Head or Pastoral Deputy.

Seems possible the teacher was talking to someone else eg a TA and the kids have overheard