To think you can’t be annoyed if you’re not invited?

[AlwaysWerpy]

When you say no every time, forget and you never make the effort.

I’ve clearly annoyed someone as I met up with a mutual friend and didn’t ask her. But every single time she makes an excuse. She’s never reached out to arrange a meet up herself. So why should it always be me.

And if you keep asking someone and they constantly say no then you start to feel desperate.

YANBU, although I'm sure someone will come along soon and tell you you're being unkind, she may suffer from anxiety, and that you must invite her every single time to every single outing so she doesn't feel left out🙄

Friendship and making arrangements should be a two-way street. If you hardly ever see her are you still friends? Life is short, spend it with people who bring you joy and make things nicer.

Friendships can end, and unreliability can be part of the reason in my book.

YANBU. Did they tell you this?

I sometimes force myself to go to things when I don't really want to go, or when it's on at an inconvenient time for me for precisely this reason. I still want to be invited to stuff and I think that sometimes you have to put yourself out.

Recently, I'd said no to a lot of stuff between Christmas and NY for one reason or another, but then I've been out a few times in January because I realise I'd said no a lot in Dec.

YANBU.