Men- the rude, the lazy and the oblivious

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Went to buy some meat today from lovely local farm shop, with baby DS in tow. Three blokes behind the counter. Was being served by the youngest -lovely guy, super polite and helpful, maybe around 18-19, an older bloke was beavering away making sausages towards the back but well within earshot and was chipping in with advice, and a third was pottering about between the two of them perhaps mid to late twenties. I was buying quite a lot of meat to freeze and use over the coming month or so, so was stood there for a while as it took some time to weigh out and bag up and the mid twenties guy was just such a sleazebag. Commenting as loudly as possible that if taken the last of the 'BREASTS' and 'We're out of boobies, none for the customers tomorrow' whilst looking me up and down and leering, and then when he didn't get a reaction saying 'how was it for you love? do you enjoy it?' while subtly thrusting his hips 🙄 I looked at him pretty deadpan and asked what he was getting at to which he replied 'I just want to know if you enjoy MEAT love'. At that point I decided to just ignore him. The other two blokes said nothing at all, so once ready I took my meat and bits and bobs and paid at the till. Came home and told DH about it and his response was maybe I had misunderstood or they were just had some kind on in-joke?

AIBU that:

Mr-meat-innuendo is at best a total childish knobhead, at worst getting off on some weird power trip trying to make me uncomfortable

It's pretty rubbish that neither Mr young butcher not Mr old butcher told him to stop being such an idiot

DH is bloody naive and it just goes to show that men don't have to put up with this bullshit?

Should have told them to keep the meat and walked out

Very true but that would have just inconvenienced me further 🙄

I’d have said fuck that and walked out

I'd have walked out.

Grim. Probably most upsetting for me would be if my DH tried to deny the sexual harassment I'd just experienced and pass it off as some kind of joke I didn't understand. He knows what men are like bc he is one and presumably will have at least heard men speak like this before, whether or not he joined in at the time.

Childish banter which if everyone’s on board hey Ho
you clearly weren’t very easy to say now but should of called it out
asked him what a earth he was on about

you could we email in and ask them if they want you to leave a review
about there dated 1980’s benny hill humour that you found offensive and how uncomfortable you felt

What a prick, if my Dw came out of a shop and regaled me with a tale like that I would definitely would be having words with the pricks boss.

I would have walked out and phoned the owner to complain, tbh.

You need to complain in writing to the owner of the shop. I think I’d also be going on social media if I didn’t think the owner’s response was appropriate as well.
What a shorty experience, OP. I’m sorry you went through that.

Ergh.
I'd probably try and think of something witty. "If it's anything like you, then I'd rather be a vegan". That's not that clever but the best I could do, I'm tired. Or I'd just give him a weird and confused look.
Then leave (although I totally sympathetise that it would've inconvenienced you more).
I'd also ring up and complain to the owner.
I can't believe someone would even do this, I've met some pigs but this is next level

I find it very hard to believe that this actually happened - not disbelieving you but in this day age you would think the pricks had a bit more cop on with regards to social media and being reported for being a sleazy prick. But, you should have left immediately and phoned the company with a complaint, or at least called him out very loudly on it. When and why did we become so passive we tolerate this shit? I would have told him to fuck off and left immediately.

To be honest I couldn't believe it was happening either, hence ignoring it for a bit as didn't really believe it was directed at me until it became very obvious. I did ask him what he was getting at very pointedly, I wasnt completely passive. Just didn't want to abandon my shopping after bundling myself and baby DS up and driving 15 minutes each way to pick it up 🤔 Maybe not the right thing to do but I didn't want to make the experience even more annoying than it already was.

I would definitely complain in writing to the owners. I would also have walked out and gone to another shop.

Oh my god

I would have been looking for a hidden camera

Then I'd have left.

I left one shop after the guy did some kind of innuendo, I just said "oh, wow. I definitely don't want to buy from here".

I realise the next place could have the same attitude but FFS, just behave like a professional person with a customer.

You could complain but they were all useless so best not go again.