I had my eldest DD (21) at a very bad time in my life, was a young, drug addicted teen and thankfully my mum stepped in as much as I would allow at the time and made sure her life was as good as it could be considering her circumstances. My DD has been good enough to forgive me and we’re in a significantly better place now.
However, poor DD was afraid of the dentist. Because of the trouble I didn’t take her until she consistently complained at being in pain, and she got her adult teeth very early on (full set by age 10 or so). I never let DM take her as I thought I was doing what was best by not making her go, and I now realise that’s the worst thing I could’ve done.
She’s still terrified of the dentist and most (over half) of her teeth have large fillings that were done when she was a child. Despite her learning and putting amazing effort into her teeth now there’s not really a way to stop those old fillings breaking down and her teeth rotting around/under them, as of right now she is 2 molars down.
My questions are: has anyone been in such a dire situation with their teeth? What was/is your plan of action in the long term?
Obviously the damage is done but I’d like to help her financially, as well as help her with ideas for what to do.