To think husband is jealous of me?

[Goshnotagain]

In a weird way. My husband seems to get really competitive and jealous over the silliest things.

Today he is upset because DC have asked him to take them to do an activity. He is upset with me because it will mean I have a relaxing afternoon whilst he takes DC out.

For context, he does this a lot and I'm not allowed to relax if he's not. Therefore I'm usually doing something, something for the DC or working just to keep busy.

I had earlier today suggested that we could have all gone out somewhere together but he didn't want to do that. He now keeps saying I 'have an attitude' and why do I want to get them out of the house so I can sit down (for probably an hour max!). He's also been telling me to do some work during that time, just so I won't be relaxing whilst he isn't.

This sounds so ridiculous when I write it down.

What is so wrong with being able to relax when you can? And who is he to 'tell' you to do some work? He's the one huffing and puffing about spending time with his own kids, even after you offering a solution, and is saying you have an attitude problem?! He sounds like an unpleasant martyr.

He sounds awful.

He is nasty, is there anything that makes you want to stay with him?

You need to get rid of him.

Wave them out the door and sit down with a brew!!

He’s a controlling, jealous twat.

As he leaves you can do this at the door🖕 and then lie on the sofa.

What the fuck is wrong with him? And why are letting him tell you what to do?

Oh my goodness what a horrible person. You poor thing op do not let him get into your head. Arghhh what an asshole!!!! Of course you're allowed relax for an afternoon and be should be rooting for you. Honestly this is just horrible to hear.

MN never ceases to amaze you. The amount of life changing advice being given on the back of a post that’s barely 50 words long.

You're not allowed to relax?? WTF.....

I'd lie on the sofa with a cuppa and cake and take a selfie and send it to him saying 'this is the life'....

I meant to say he should be rooting for you, as I'm be happy to think you get a little time out. Stick up for yourself and tell him where to go.

What a nasty little fucker he is. Why on earth are you married to him?

OP: Such silly comments on here made on the basis of one short post from you. No-one commenting here knows anything about you and your husband, what sort of people you are or your history. Can't you get a babysitter and go our for a quiet meal or a drive out somewhere away from home and have a good talk about things?

Ha!

I'd be lying down on the sofa with a drink & chocolate before he'd even left the house. And I'd still be there when he got back home.

Nasty fucking cunt! GET OUT NOW.

What a controlling twat.
The only sensible solution is a divorce.

You need to call him out on this ridiculous behaviour. Make him see what a twat he is. They are his children and they've asked him to take them somewhere. What you do during that time is none of his business. Tell him if you wanted someone to manage your diary then you'll hire a PA

This sounds so ridiculous when I write it down.

It does sound like a very trivial issue tbh, he's probably being childish but we all have those moments.

This forum will convince you he's an abuser and its time for you to get a divorce though, so not sure what you're expecting.

My husband is similar. He HATES the fact that I work 3 days a week and he works full time. He is so jealous about it and subsequently thinks he should have to do nothing else aside from work because he works full time and I don’t. It is the source of many arguments.
It baffles me the amount of posts on MN that the advice is ‘leave’ ‘get out now’ like that’s even an option for many women. Even on a full time wage in my job I couldn’t support my children and I without us going without. We probably wouldn’t be in poverty. But there would be no clubs for the children. No days out. No holidays. Very little for xmas or birthdays. It’s just not something I would be prepared to do to them.

Bin him off, he's not a keeper.