Is this sexist?

[LizTrussesLettuce]

Otherwise lovely dh has an annoying habit of using the words 'nagging' and 'ranting' when I ask him for things. Admittedly I do often have to ask more than once because things never get done the first time. I did make him aware of this.

It's got to the point where I find it really demeaning and irritating. I asked him if he'd use those words in the workplace if asked to do something especially if it was by another man. No answer.

Aibu to think it's sexist and belittling to use these words? It makes me feel like some sort of fish wife. Is that the point?

Typically that is a word used by men to deflect from the fact they have not only been unable to figure out what needs doing, but even when asked repeatedly they are incapable of contributing. Apparently asking someone to do their fair share is actually worse than not doing it.

calling someone a nag is generally sexist because men don't say it to other men

But. Why is he calling you a nag?Does he say "I'll take the bins out, they're full" then keep pushing the things down and down and so you ask him to take them out and then you're nagging? or are you portioning out jobs and he's not in agreement that you're a) in charge and b) in charge of him specifically?