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Would you allow your child out of school for a wedding?

78 replies

gjkufbb · 20/01/2023 21:42

My sister has just given us her wedding date which is on a Monday.
I'll of course be attending however my son will be in school.

Would you think it's unacceptable to keep him off school to attend? It's about an hour and a half away so I can't really nip out after the wedding to get him and bring him back.

I asked his dad (we are no longer together) and he said no, I'm being unreasonable.

YABU- kids shouldn't miss school for an aunties wedding

YANBU - he should attend

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WandaWonder · 22/03/2023 04:18

It depends, first if they wanted to go then other things after that ie exam that day or whatever

If child was not really bothered then no way

manictuesday · 22/03/2023 04:46

Of course it's ok! He's 7 and it's a close family member's wedding. Just inform the school and don't think any more of it. I started reading this thinking maybe he was about to sit his GCSEs!

MaverickSnoopy · 22/03/2023 05:14

My sisters wedding is during sats and school have authorised even though they don't approve any absence requests during assessment periods.

Doingmybest12 · 22/03/2023 07:14

I think it is the sort of thing that makes a child feel really special and excited (usually) so yes from me.

Abraxan · 22/03/2023 07:36

I teach and would have no issue with his absence from school. None of the teachers I work with would either. You wouldn't be receiving a fine here either - they only kick in on day 5 of unauthorised in our LA.

LlamaFace19 · 22/03/2023 07:37

Yup we took our DD out of school to attend our (mine and her dad's) wedding. Totally fine.

NoMoreAgeJokes · 22/03/2023 07:44

sjpkgp1 · 21/01/2023 02:03

Definitely yes. Joyous and important family events are remembered for years by children and adults alike. Have a fab time !

Totally agree with this

Marchforward · 22/03/2023 07:47

gjkufbb · 20/01/2023 21:46

He is 7 btw! Thanks everyone

Assuming it’s not year 2 SATS week, yes I would take him out.

MelchiorsMistress · 22/03/2023 07:50

I’d take him out of school for the day, but also be really disappointed that I’d have to leave early to get him to bed at a decent time for school the next day.

CheersForThatEh · 22/03/2023 07:54

Why would you want to when you have a day of free childcare and he will be happier in school than watching a ceremony and being shhed and stand9ng around for pictures. Collect him for the after school but if he is older.

Is it possible that your sister may have booked a monday to gently steer people away from bringing kids without having to declare it child-free? Like she will let nephew come if you arrange it but might be hoping you dont?

Courgeon · 22/03/2023 07:55

Don't think there's anything wrong with pulling him out of school but I do have issue with people who book weddings on a week day... It may be cheaper for them but it's a colossal inconvenience for a lot of guests. I'm having to use x 2 days a/l later on this year to attend a close friends wedding and to be honest I resent it. Rest of the fam aren't coming due to cost and teenage DC not wanting to miss x 2 days of school. Bride is upset they aren't coming but it's tough.

MoreSleepPleasee · 22/03/2023 08:07

Of course he should attend his aunts wedding. No brainer.

MoreSleepPleasee · 22/03/2023 08:10

Marchforward · 22/03/2023 07:47

Assuming it’s not year 2 SATS week, yes I would take him out.

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Yes because year 2 SATS are really important 🤔🤣

user1492757084 · 22/03/2023 08:11

He should not miss his Aunt's wedding.
He is old enough to remember it and old enough to enjoy the whole family festivity.

Untitledsquatboulder · 22/03/2023 08:23

Thesonglastslonger · 20/01/2023 22:32

This

But your sister is a bit of a dick for doing a weekday term time wedding 👀

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Yeah right, her sister should def pay double and make sure it's a Sunday so dn can attend. It's his day after all. Ffs!

BasketFlowers · 22/03/2023 08:25

YANBU He should definitely take the day off to attend the wedding. 🎉

drpet49 · 22/03/2023 08:46

Takingabreakagain · 20/01/2023 21:45

YANBU a close relatives wedding is an acceptable reason to be off school. It's a one off situation

I agree.

snowgirl1 · 22/03/2023 08:50

I've never taken DD out of school for family holidays - but would have no hesitation in doing so for her Aunt's wedding.

Marchforward · 22/03/2023 11:29

MoreSleepPleasee · 22/03/2023 08:10

Yes because year 2 SATS are really important 🤔🤣

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It makes a different to which level school push your child to achieve in year 6 stats and year 6 stats are used to create minimum grades students are expected to achieve at GCSE age.

I’m always amazed by the apathetic nature of many parents in UK towards education.

LBFseBrom · 05/06/2023 16:51

Do take him.

ToWhitToWhoo · 05/06/2023 17:25

YANBU. This would usually be seen as a good enough reason to take one day off school.

ArdeteiMasazxu · 05/06/2023 17:49

At 7, yes absolutely. As per pp I wouldn't if it was a more important school year.

Giselletheunicorn · 05/06/2023 17:57

Yes of course!

Plannersareus · 05/06/2023 18:00

I took my 12 year old to his aunts wedding 3 weeks ago, school, however, denied my request for term time leave. I still took him though.

boysmuminherts · 05/06/2023 18:07

Of course he should attend his Aunty's wedding