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AIBU?

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WIBU to complain?

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Rosebel · 19/01/2023 21:59

Well not too sure about this. Today at nursery my DS developed a fever. They asked could they give him Calpol which I agreed to and his temperature did slowly come down. He ate tea and was fine by home time.
I work in the same nursery in a different room. One of the girls I normally work with was working in my son's room today and she noticed he looked unwell. The other staff members tried to downplay it but she took his temperature anyway and obviously it was high.
Now though I'm here thinking how often do things like this happen? He's had a temperature before in the evening but I've always assumed it develops just before pick up time but now wonder if he's actually unwell all afternoon or something
There are a few other concerns but this worries me. If they are missing he's not well, what else are they missing? Would I be totally unreasonable to complain? So bloody complicated when you're a parent and you work there.
YANBU I would complain
YABU you know they are busy don't say anything

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Coffeellama · 19/01/2023 22:02

Normally nurseries rush to kick kids out for anything. Do you think they’re avoiding acknowledging he’s sick to avoid letting you take him home early? If so I’d complain if you aren’t comfortable with it.

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Rosebel · 19/01/2023 22:15

Yes that's part of it. Really with a high temperature he should have gone home but they didn't want me to go as they'd be short staffed. However I'm also not happy with the fact none of the staff in the room (who see him 4 days a week) realised he was ill but someone who rarely sees him did.
However I'm worried I'm overeating because I sometimes do with my kids.

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Lialou · 19/01/2023 22:40

Sounds like it was all dealt with. An initial difference in opinion, temperature taken, calpol given. I'm sure they wouldn't leave your child ill, and especially when you're only in the next room!

Quitelikeit · 19/01/2023 22:42

YABU

you work there fgs

he was unwell - why didn’t you notice for a start?

they alerted you, gave him calpol

if you were that worried you could have asked to take him home

Jap26 · 19/01/2023 22:46

If he wasn't a staff child do you think it would have been dealt with differently? If it would have been you should complain.

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Rosebel · 19/01/2023 22:48

He was ill in the afternoon not in the morning so would be hard for me to notice. I knew they wouldn't let me take him home because we were already short staffed.
Just thinking if the woman I usually work with wasn't there he would have felt rubbish all afternoon.

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Lialou · 19/01/2023 22:54

If this is the case you shouldn't have him in where you work. But would they really leave a child sick so that you didn't need to go home?

Flamingogirl08 · 19/01/2023 23:12

Complain about what exactly?

Badgirlriri · 20/01/2023 00:13

I think you’re overreacting and I’m not quite sure what you’d have to complain about.

donttellmehesalive · 20/01/2023 02:15

I don't understand what the complaint would be. One of the staff noticed he was poorly and responded.

Surely there is always, whenever a child is ill at nursery, a member of staff who notices first, a discussion, then it's dealt with?

How does it happen in the room you work in?

As an aside, I'd always assumed that having your child at your own nursery would give you opportunities to see them during the day. I'm genuinely surprised that you drop off and pick up, and don't check in on your breaks and lunchtimes.

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Rosebel · 20/01/2023 06:59

The complaint is that the people who look after him didn't notice he was unwell. A person who rarely sees him did. So if it had been just the usual members of staff no one would have noticed. Even when the staff member said he looked ill the other staff were trying to convince her he wasn't and not to bother taking his temperature.
Would you honestly not care if no one noticed your child was ill? Or that people said oh don't bother to take his temperatures he's fine. And yes sometimes did notice but she's not usually there so how many times has it happened before? As I sa8it might have happened before because there have been times when he's had a temperature in the evening.
No I don't see him on my lunch break because he's asleep and if he wasn't asleep he'd just become upset again when I left.
I won't say anything though as I'm clearly being unreasonable.

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Lialou · 20/01/2023 09:00

I think the point people are making is how do you know they wouldn't have noticed....let's say 30 mins later and his cheeks went a little red now too (but during all this he's still playing and seeming happy for example). You can't say they wouldn't have noticed, what you can say is they disagreed at that point but we're proven wrong, but you can't say they wouldn't have thought it not long after and done his temp.

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