To ask for your tips for not letting people get to you

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I have really struggled with my SIL for years now. At almost every meeting she makes passive aggressive comments and subtle digs. I think about the things that she says for days later and it makes me feel like I do everything wrong and I find it really upsetting or it makes me angry.

Does anyone have any tips on how to stop letting her remarks get to me? I have read The Art of not giving a F* but it didn't help. I am a quiet person who hates confrontation so I don't want to say anything to her I just want to let her comments wash over me and for me to not dwell on them.

I have reduced contact with her now but still have to see her on occasion. Any advice would be great thanks.

@jolene7 No it's not that, I generally tend to look on the positive side and when people make cutting comments I think maybe they didn't mean it the way it came across or maybe they were having a bad day so it took over a year for the penny to drop. She also criticises other people a lot for things so she will come over to my house and tell stories about a couple of people that she knows that have done things to annoy her that I think are very minor. I have also overheard her talking to my DP about me.

Sorry if this posts twice I have just written a reply but it doesn't seem to have posted.

Thanks to everyone who has offered advice- some very good suggestions. I particularly like the idea to write down my feelings after the event, I am going to give this a go.