To find these colleagues whispering in front of me very rude

[MinceandMash]

I work in a primary school but I am only there temporarily if that makes any difference. I’m in a small SEN class with a teacher and two other TA’s and although they are nice enough to me they constantly huddle together and whisper. It makes me feel really uncomfortable and excluded and I also find very rude. I don’t think they are talking about me, but clearly it’s something they don’t want me to hear. I know there is probably confidentiality at stake but I’m not going to go home and gossip about anything I hear.

There are also other little niggle things like they didn’t get me Christmas cards or gifts but got them for each other. Sounds petty but I wouldn’t dream of doing that.

AIBU to think this rude?

I know what you mean OP, I do find whispering to be rude if done regularly. It deliberately excludes others from the conversations and feels alienating.

Of course occasionally it could be that their is something personal and confidential to be discussed but It should be kept brief or done elsewhere generally.

It just seems a bit unprofessional. There are plenty of times and places you can go for a private chat if you want.

Whispering is rude. Normally taught not to as a child. They should have a meeting if they need to discuss confidential things.
They sound cliquey and not very nice!

They shouldn’t be whispering - how childish. If it’s a private matter they should take it elsewhere. Presents/cards, again they could exchange elsewhere so no one feels left out. If I couldn’t afford to buy for everyone I would ensure I didn’t give my gift in front of other colleagues. They sound quite immature to be honest. :/

Extremely unprofessional. Sounds very cliquey as well.

Sounds awful. I'd find a new job.

I had the same thing in one school I taught at where the HoD and deputy HoD would have whispered conversations in the workroom. It was awful and so unprofessional, when they could have just gone into an empty classroom or office if they needed to have a private chat!

YANBU at all! How rude and unprofessional. I had this when certain members of staff were on shift together at my last job. They did fuck all but gossip and whisper at the lockers, apart they were actually nice to work with but together it was awful.

Going through the same at my work.

One time they were talking about me and my baby so I called them out on it. Told me and swore down they never spoke about me! I just replied "oh okay, must be another RicciardoPerez in the organisation who named their baby the same as mine and had the same birth mark on their face". It shut them up for that occasion but it hasn't stopped them.

Yep. This ☝️

I have worked in primary schools. Some can be very very cliquey.

Eugh so childish, I fucking hate whispering.

If they’re sat gossiping and not engaging with the classroom then someone will notice and say something. Keep working on your skills, experience and keep it pleasant with them. They may well lose out when there’s the inevitable educational/classroom shake up.

Yes definitely. Most of the ones I’ve been to are lovely, and I’ve not encountered this before.