DD friends bullying?

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My DD is 9. We live on the outskirts of a town, in a quiet street with around 20 houses. Few children roughly same age as DD. They play out in the communual area together, no other children nearby. A few of the children are nasty, constantly picking on DD, 1 boy and 1 girl who are 9 and 10.

I know all children can be nasty and squabble but this is beyond that, it's constant. Have tried speaking to boy and girls parents, nothing been done.

Have spoke to my own DD trying to make her realise what said friends are doing to her but she doesn't want to change anything about it, she just wants to please everyone and be everyone's friend.

Boy are girl are the "leaders" so everyone plays along with them, so not as if dd can play with anyone else.

I get so upset when it happens, I just want to scream and shout and tell them it's not on. Obviously I can't and I won't because they are 9 and 10! But I hate seeing my dd upset. Spoke to family members who told me I need to sit back and let dd see it for herself, but it's getting worse!

Dd will argue back slightly but she is frightened of standing up to them.

Does anyone have any advice on what I can do?

I can't keep dd away from them as she loves being out playing with her friends and it's not fair to punish her by keeping her home just because of them.

No-one else locally she can play with.

It's making me feel very low as it's nothing compared to when I was younger (kids having a little squabble then moving on)

It's difficult that she still wants to go out and play. All I can think of is to take her out or do play dates so she sees less of the bullies and to continue to tell her that they are being horrible to her and are best avoided.

Could she join after school hobbies too, to take her away from them? We live on a busy road so my dc either did play dates or clubs or stayed in

I do take her out alot and do a lot of things with her but due to the weather it's harder to get to play parks etc and due to the cost of living rising I would struggle to afford enough activities in a week to keep her away from them, we do a lot of stuff through the week but not everyday so she is still around them unfortunately.

Have spoken to her about joining new clubs etc but she is quite shy so doesn't really want to join anything new unless she knows people that go.

We have tried, football, dancing, gymnastics and a local church group so far, she gives up after a while. Will definitely be looking into some more clubs etc for her to join to keep her away from them as much as possible.

Thanks for the advice