Partner potentially working abroad, not sure what will happen

[Cinammonroll]

Been together almost 3 years and living together. A potential job opportunity has come up which would mean him being abroad for 8 weeks. Which is totally fine as a one off, but it may be a regular job.
The most we've ever been apart is 3 weeks.
If he wants to do it then I support him, I can't stand in his way.
If it's going to be a regular thing then that will change things, I'll essentially be living alone.
Aibu to have concerns? I trust him, but I just wonder how realistic a relationship can be if someone's abroad most of the year.
I'm not planning to get anyone else or anything like that. He says it's all very up in the air and he's very 50 50 about whether he wants to do it and will miss me.
I've tried to be frank and ask him what it means for us.
There's not much I can do for now really. I've told him I'll support his decision to go. Sadly it's not something I can do.
We're not engaged or anything, not sure if that would change things? Has anyone else been in this situation?

So if it's just very occasional 8 weeks say once or twice a year then that's no issue. But if it becomes him being abroad more than he's here that's different.

I went away for 4 months. It was a one off but if I had the opportunity to go again I would (for context I am married with 2 DSDs).
It was an amazing experience and those that did the work full time were able to then have better time off when they were home. My questions would be, is it a great opportunity? Can he try it one and see how you both go? Are you able to visit wherever he's going?
8 weeks would fly by, I also found it easy in that time to socialise without guilt and focus on other priorities (losing weight for example).
I wouldn't negate it until you've tried it.

Sorry some typos in there. I think with FaceTime etc now, you can be halfway across the world and not feel like it 😊

My DH & I have worked in many different places, at different times, over the course of our 30+ year marriage. We both enjoyed it, spending time apart to focus on work, having multiple places to call home.
I guess we made an effort to keep connected but at the time it was exciting, and didn’t feel like an effort. We did miss things like birthdays and each others family occasions from time to time, but it was fine.

Maybe just try it and see, it doesn’t mean the end if you don’t want it to.

Not quite the same periods as you, OP, but I did 4 years of DH being half the globe away (luckily only 2 hours time difference) from a Sunday morning for 2 weeks, to Saturday lunchtime, having 2 weeks here but working FT, and essentially 1 weekend a month here (with DPILs putting significant pressure to visit them on all of those!, 3 hours away).

It had to happen as the economy tanked. We got into a DH at home and a DH Away routine, as required. He saw a lot of movies at weekends and on long plane trips, while I just survived. We had an au pie most of that time to manage mornings so I could still get to work (Dd still went to after school club).

But once that time was done, it was done and we got back into our groove again.

Lots of people work away regularly - it’s part of working life. I think it’s an overprivileged attitude to expect a perfect little setup for your home life all the time. We’ve all got to make a living in this dog eat dog society, lest end up destitute.

”The world keeps spinning on its axis, one man works whilst another relaxes” as they say