To feel shat upon again?

[GooseberryCinnamonYogurt]

I lost my husband some years ago to cancer.

16 months ago I met somebody else and we've become really close spending a lot of time together and having lots of plans for our future. Today he's been diagnosed with cancer. I don't know what to think. I just don't see how this is fair. He has to tell his kids tonight. He lost his wife to cancer, the boys mum.

I don't mean to minimise your feelings - is it terminal? Many cancers are treatable and curable now.

I'm so sorry OP, life can be so unfair 💐

YANBU That is utter shit

At this stage we don't know. Tbh I don't know if I have the strength to go through this again.

Wow, I'm so sorry. How incredibly unfair for all of you.

I am so sorry OP. What a horrible situation to find yourself in.

That is just devastating. I know someone who lost their first and second wives to breast cancer. It’s brutal. All you can do is be there, or, to protect yourself, take the decision to take a step back, given what you’ve already gone through. Only you can know.

OP. I lost my first husband to cancer and now have a very unwell DH2. It doesn't feel fair and I'm sorry this is happening to you. I hope that he gets speedy treatment and a positive prognosis.

how unlucky. why is he telling his kids without having an info on whether or not it’s treatable/ what will happen next etc? All the things a terrified child will want to know

Oh @GooseberryCinnamonYogurt that is awful for you both and the families involved.
Why do bad things happen to good people ?
I just wish I knew the answer.

Fingers crossed and prayers for him that the cancer is treatable with no long term after effects.

Why can life be so unfair to some people ?? I'm sorry OP. I have no words of wisdom for you but I have everything crossed that once you know more, things aren't as bad as they feel at this moment.

It's shit, but according to the ad, one in two (50%) of us will get cancer of some kind.
DH was diagnosed last April. Had a huge op and some brutal radiotherapy and recovery is a struggle.
It affects the whole family.

Sorry to read your post, it is so very unfair isn't it.

Not children, they're adults and know he's been feeling unwell. Only right they're told so they're supporting him.

So sorry you're going through it too.

I don't know how to say this properly but it really helps if we don't think of events in life being fair or unfair. Tragic, tough, challenging, upsetting, bloody awful yes but once we start with the 'unfair' it can make dealing with the grief and challenge tougher.

So sorry you're going through it too.

Thanks Gooseberry ❤️

What an awful observation to take from the OP

Stop digging into something the OP has not requested you too.

And unsurprisingly you've got it all wrong.

OP, life is shit sometimes and being dealt this hand twice is beyond unfair.

I hope the prognosis is good, I hope you find the strength to deal with this in any way you can. Good luck to you all.

Thank you dogdaydown- negative comments such as those are water off a ducks back.