What age do toddlers/young children calm down before bed?

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Our neighbours (houses are attached) have a little boy who turned 2 in November. His bedtime routine is that every night between 8pm-9pm his dad gets him riled up, chasing him round the house, up and down the stairs, lots of excited screaming etc, lots of foot stamping with the stair running. At weekends it goes on later and sometimes ends in tears I.e Friday night it went on for longer and by 10:30pm the little boy was crying. Never hear him crying any other time.

Obviously I can't talk to them about it as it's just them living their life in their home, but I don't have kids and not sure how long to expect this to go on for. Anyone know when bedtime might become a quiet experience? Think it would be good if I can just tell myself mentally that this will pass.

Well, while they are riling him up, he won't calm down.

You're probably living next to a family at the lower end of the class spectrum. Once this bad habit has run its course, they will find another. Then another. Then another. GL for your already frayed nerves. This won't end.

My DC is 4.5 and still gets hyper before bedtime. But she goes to bed at 7pm so the chaos tends to be 6.30-7

You are vile

That would be better as that's when I'm cooking/eating dinner. This timing is annoying as I'm trying to relax and have down time.

What?

The class comment. Tory snob.

How on earth could you possibly know that?? What a strange thing to say

Take that out and what I said still stands.

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Well, while they are riling him up, he won't calm down.

You're probably living next to a family at the lower end of the class spectrum. Once this bad habit has run its course, they will find another. Then another. Then another. GL for your already frayed nerves. This won't end.

Happy now? Is OP's problem solved? It isn't, is it? So your observation is irrelevant.

Mine didn't go to bed earlier than 9-10 until they dropped their nap and I think that's quite common. You'd expect that to happen sometime around age 2-3, so I'd hope it would get earlier for you soon, even if it takes a bit longer than that for bedtimes to be less manic/more reasonable.

Thank you - I think an earlier bedtime would be a massive help as the noise wouldn't be so bothersome for me earlier on. Good to know that might happen in the next year or so.

There are actually plenty of child development specialists and sleep experts who recommend roughhousing before bed to help children get excess energy out and regulate themselves

Careful, you're going to run out of oxygen way up there on your high horse

What a very strange thing to say….

If they’re putting their 2 year old to bed that late it will probably continue until there’s something like school or nursery that starts to force a more sensible bedtime.