Is it weird that dd9 dad always asks her about boyfriends but never asks her brothers similar?

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CarpetHorror · 16/01/2023 18:57

AIBU to think it's a bit weird that ex asks dd9 about 'boyfriends' every time he speaks to her. She doesn't bring it up - he asks her.

He doesn't ask her older brothers about girlfriends.

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NowDoYouBelieveMe · 17/01/2023 05:26

CohenTree · 17/01/2023 05:06

He's not asking to be cute, he's asking to laugh at her.

Once again, pig.

You're taking a wild guess about what motivates a complete stranger. It says more about you than about the other person.

You disregarded OP's actual posts after reading them, because apparently you know a complete stranger's motivations better than the person who had a child with them. Weird.

Ohhhhladz · 17/01/2023 05:42

CohenTree · 17/01/2023 04:58

If a girl announces that she has (a) boyfriend(s), as OPs daughter has done, then it is completely normal and protective for a father to want to know about them.
And there's nothing wrong with a bit of lighthearted teasing from a family member.
Good grief you are all uptight.

She hasn't "announced" anything, though, and the OP clearly states She has friends who are boys and he always says are they her boyfriend. It's her dad using the word. Inappropriately.

I'm curious though (that is is a question to anyone) - do little girls ever refer to the boys they play with as "boyfriends"? I've heard girls and women occasionally refer to platonic female friends as "girlfriends", but never heard "boyfriend" for a platonic friend from either girls/women or men/boys. I haven't been everywhere though.

DontSpeakLatinInFrontOfTheBooks · 17/01/2023 06:08

It’s definitely weird. Can’t decide if it’s creepy or he’s not got much of a connection with her and is too lazy to make one so has pigeonholed her as some boy crazy 9 year old.

Not ok either way as it’s inappropriate and embarrassing for your daughter.

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