3 month old has never met his dad. Do I try one last time to involve him?

[Justwingit66]

My baby is almost three months old and I have had no contact with the dad since he walked away at 15 weeks and told me not to contact him in regards to the pregnancy/baby. I considered abortion at the time but ultimately it was too late and now that I have my beautiful baby I’m so glad I continued with the pregnancy despite the challenges of single parenthood!

Whilst I have healed from what he has done and would happily never see him again I feel a great sadness for my son who will never know his dad. I have this nagging feeling that I should reach out to him one last time and put my own feelings aside in case there is a tiny chance he wants to be involved with his son. I’m feeling so torn and trying to weigh up what the right decision is here. I’m also conscious that his family have no clue about this baby so my son also misses out on grandparents etc. Has anyone else been through something similar?

YABU - do not contact him
YANBU - do contact him

So you choose to give your son a bad start in life without a father? I’m sure he was walking away from before you could have had an abortion.
women fought to have abortions, yet still children are born to absent fathers,

regardless of her decision she didn’t make a baby on her own? These men need to do BETTER. Can’t expect to do the baby making and then when the inevitable happens say get an abortion. Some women don’t agree with abortion.

I wouldn't bother. All your son will learn is that his father's an oxygen thief with zero interest in him, something you already know. "Knowing one's parent" isn't always worth the effort.

I'm in the same situation but I wrote to his family as I didn't know he was actually trying to hide it from them. He told them not to respond and they didn't. I know he lied to them to make them stay away, as he said they were heartbroken they couldn't see their only grandchild. I've been printing out photos to send to them. I have been sending dad photos through text, but he never responds. My DD is 16mo and I'm still feeling like for her sake I need to keep trying. I had PND & anxiety really bad and I know this played a big part in how his absence affected me. I'm almost recovered from that and the guilt is almost gone too. Sometimes I worry about her future not having family (mine is abusive so NC), and sometimes I'm not worried at all because I know I can fill those places with chosen family. That nagging feeling is getting easier to deal with- it's almost gone. I find it easier to keep reaching out than not to. It's really about how it makes you feel. If he wanted to be a dad he'll show up. You're reaching out isn't going to make it happen or stop it from happening. So if it makes you feel better do it. I keep picturing my daughter asking me about it when she's older and I want to be able to say, "I tried. I sent letters, photos, texts, etc. I did everything I could." It absolves me from guilt. I think 16mo is more than most would give, but I know at some point soon I'll give up. As long as it's not hurting anything I don't think it's a bad idea if it makes you feel better.

First of all women's bodies shouldn't be controlled by the government either way. Our reproduction is between us and our doctors. Whether the government is allowing it or not has nothing to do with our personal decisions. You can't be sure of anything in OP's life because you weren't there. It's not like men are so wonderful our health and happiness hinge on their presence 🙄 Are you homophobic as well? Not all happy families include fathers.