I'll try to be brief.
NC but I've posted before.
Recently moved in with OH. Don't get me wrong, our relationship needs work at times. But it's pretty normal on the whole.
MIL has love bombed me from day one. Right up until I said I wasn't moving to where she lives (for many good reasons!). It would be several hours drive away, easier to fly! As soon as that was said, she changed
She is incredibly manipulative and devious and irs the type of abuse that's hidden. She would phone me every time she spoke to OH and start blaming me for our issues and having a go at me. OH had gone to her for private advice and it got to the point where after 2 years I told OH to stop talking to her about our relationship because she's phone me to go at me. She even ignored me saying I'm at work and would demand to speak to me!
I've fallen pregnant and sadly miscarried. MIL told OH until she sees proof I was pregnant and miscarried, she won't support me as she thinks I've lied about being pregnant. This is baring in mind OH went to the first scan with me! She also told OH to get a DNA test as the dates didn't add up and we were at the time in a LDR. Meanwhile she tells me she will be there at the birth and that me and my kids need to move to where she lives because IN HER OWN WORDS she's very controlling and I won't be able to do anything right.
Over the time we have been together she has constantly belittled me in subtle ways. Constantly referring to me as his girlfriend deliberately (when she knows we're engaged). Making comments about my age and do I really want a baby at my age (I'm 35!), talking to me about OH's exes and how heartbroken he was (and is?!) about them etc...
I am no contact with her. I have never been nasty or done anything wrong.
She is spiteful - sends OH Xmas gifts but nothing for my kids, which is fine, except she keeps telling the world how much she loves them and is their gran etc! Nobody sees the truth!
She is clearly a narcissist (and yes I'm qualified to say this!) and even resorts to posting memes and statuses on Facebook that are directed at me/OH. We have both unfriended her so she now posts them as public (and believe me the only public posts are those ones, can't see anything else on her profile!) so we blocked her, and now she just texts comments to him!
She will say things like "I'm not texting you anymore because I don't know who I'm texting with, so if you want to talk you'll have to call" (implying I'm texting her from his phone pretending to be him)
She asks if he is limited on what times he can text or how much he can text (implying I control him)
She tells him I'm crazy and he can find crazy in his home town so he should leave me. She tells him to leave, tells him he can find someone else (implying I'm nothing special)
Im on the verge of losing my shit with her. There's so many more examples but I'd be here forever naming them.
And the root cause? He moved away from her and she wanted me to uproot my kids and move there instead. (It's a flight away, not drivable really).
OH never bothered that much with her before he moved here. Saw her maybe once a month, quick phone calls here and there. He says she's controlling and awful.
She now opens his post and does whatever she can to involve herself into every aspect of his life.
He's begged her to stop and she wont.
She says I'm a narcissist and I've pushed him away from his family (meaning her and his sister). OH says I'm the reason he saw her as often as he did!! (Id always tell him to visit because he's lazy and wouldn't otherwise). He has the same contact with his dad if not more, but she hates it, says stuff like "why do you only have time for your precious daddy" then adds him and his dad to a group chat to slag his dad off, and they've been divorced 20 years!
She's nearly 60!!
Any advice?