Aibu for deciding what to name baby ?

[Emm1989]

Currently pregnant 6 months (baby boy!) with husband of 4 years. In laws (never really interested in our lives and live an hour away so don't see them much) want me to name baby after a grandfather that DH has never met. Although we had a name picked out already and are sticking to it , we said we can consider it as a middle name. I've thought about it for a while and felt that as I had a great relationship with my grandfather (almost like a dad to me) I would like to choose his name as the middle name. DH is very supportive and doesn't mind but has said that it might create some drama as they already asked , but my argument would be that their family name is carried on as baby has dad's name so is it only fair that I remain a bit of my identity by choosing the name that means something to me. AITA for just saying that I'm gonna have the final say?

I would say no due to the cheek and entitlement of it. Especially with the back story of little typical interest. I’m super confused about why grandparents start shouting the odds about names -they’ve had their chance to name their own children. I’m also a no for using both names

It isn’t fair to give your child names that you don’t really want to give them and didn’t plan to give them because you can’t just say ‘no, sorry ‘ to MIL.

It doesn’t matter if they asked first - you don’t get to call dibs on naming someone else’s baby! Ridiculous.

Call the baby whatever names you prefer, but might be tactful not to say it’s after your Grandfather.

As much as I loved my parents, as wonderful and loved they were as grandparents, I would never suggest my Dc use their names for any Dc they might have. Why? They are remembered for their own sakes, we won’t forget their names! And babies aren’t there to be human memorial benches to ancestors.

Also, my parents didn’t have names that any sane parent would choose now. Even as a middle name.

Be calm and assertive. Do what you choose for your baby. And if you do choose your DGF’s name just use the name and don’t make a big deal about why.

Use the name you both like. They had the option to choose a name with their own DC, now it’s your turn.