To think his request is inappropriate?

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I bumped into my new neighbour, I was pulling up on my driveway and he was outside.

He came over and introduced himself and then after a few pleasantries he asked if he could look around my house (semi detached so our houses are the same) to get ideas on what he could do with his.

I’m a female that lives alone and I don’t feel comfortable having a man that I don’t know in my house. I get why he asked but I feel like he shouldn’t have asked the moment he met me.

God, no. One summer some middle aged bloke in shorts with a clipboard turned up and ask to look at our trees in the back garden as he was doing some survey. The only way into the garden was through the house and I was at home on my own. He got a firm no and looked amazed.

A few minutes later he rang the buzzer again and said, oh I see you have a car on the drive that you’re not using (it was SORNed at the time and looked a bit sad, but no “for sale” sign on it). Do you want to sell it? No. Fuck off.

I did think that was creepy because he had clearly not pissed off somewhere else when I told him no about the trees but had spent a few minutes nosing about. And what presumption thinking I’d just sell a car on my drive to him, a random visitor!

I’d say, ‘My house really isn’t a ‘show home’ to get inspiration from and I’m not keen on the idea, actually.’ Then say nothing else. No apologies / explaining. Men don’t just get to invite themselves into the homes of near strangers. It’s rude and intrusive.

I hope you said no, that’s a really strange thing to request.

So how did you handle it OP?

What a weird thing to ask. I had a BIL like that. He was not neuro divergent but he had very little grasp of etiquette, wasn't good at reading social cues, and was in general a bit immature. It gets old very fast

I had a neighbour ask my builder twice to look around my house, I hadn’t moved in but it I’d be moving my things over. He told her no as it wasn’t his permission to give.

She never asked me.

I’m sorry but if you’re someone going to neighbours you don’t know and asking to view their house that’s very strange behaviour. We’re all nosey but some of us manage to have self restraint.