Like many people, I was in a relationship with a boy my own age when we were teenagers, which lasted for quite a while. We even talked about getting engaged, but we both married other people. We have both been single again for several years. Recently I have been reacquainted with his parents through a local community group, although I have not met him. Sadly, his mother died last year and I have been asking after his father, through some mutual friends, as I was concerned about him being widowed. We all meet sometimes at the community group (not my ex). Anyway, the other week I happened to meet his father at the local shops, we wished each other Happy New Year and had a friendly hug, or so I thought. The next day he sent me a message asking me for coffee, which I accepted as I thought he was just being friendly and wanting a bit of company as he is on his own. But then he started telling me how beautiful I look and how he has wanted to take me out for ages. Don't forget, his wife, my former boyfriend's mum, has not been in her grave a year. His children are all about my age. I started making excuses for not going out and thankfully he backed off, so hopefully he has got the message. Don't you think this is really weird though - he's twenty years older than me and could have been my father-in-law. I even wonder if there is something wrong with him.