Tik Tok & Snap at primary school

[Jennybeans401]

Not sure if this is usual or not as my eldest is at a specialist school which is very different to mainstream school.

Dd is my middle child, in Year 5 and struggling. We think she's ASD but not diagnosed yet. She's got a friend at school who brings her phone in and, whilst the kids are getting their coats on for hometime, gets it out of her bag. Usually then the friend shows dd and the other friends things on Tik Tok and Snap. Dd was worried by the Tik Tok as there was swearing and some angry/aggressive video on there.

AIBU to think even in the last 10 minutes before hometime the phones should be off?

They are still in the classroom at this time.

Report it to the school and ask them to ensure phones aren’t on in classroom. TikTok has a minimum age of 13. If your daughter is being shown stuff in the classroom that is rated above her age then that’s a supervision failure by the school.

Yes definitely raise it with school. I won’t let my yr 5 boy have tiktok or snapchat so I wouldn’t be happy either. My son is allowed to watch TikTok with me on my phone (mostly all animal videos) but it’s not suitable unsupervised at age 10 imo.

It seems to be the last 10 minutes of the day. Dd says this girl switches her phone on and the teacher doesn't seem to mind. She goes to after school club (the friend) so it's not like she needs a lift home and has to ring someone.

The teacher probably doesn't know. I seriously doubt that she knows and is ok with it.

Kids shouldn't be on social media sites (unsupervised by adults) until at least 13.

I work at a Primary School (yr6) & we take all phones off the children when they walk in the door, lock them away all day & give them back as they walk out again - all After School Clubs included! This is done throughout the school, although not usually necessary lower than yrs5/4.

Year 5 is too young for tickitytock and Snapchat . They'll see allsorts of unsuitable stuff on there

At DD's school they hand in phones at the door and are given them back at the door at the end of the day. They have no access to them in the classroom at any time. I'd definitely have a word with the school. I wouldn't allow my 10/11 yo to have tiktok or Snapchat unsupervised either.

Bloody hell. I despair. Year 5?!? Bloody hell.

I’d email school and report this and do the same if it ever happens again.

Children in primary school do not need phones. Especially not smart phones. Parents are just ridiculous. I know that giving my children smart phones too young means they’re much more likely to see things that will scare/worry/disturb them. I would not choose a school that allows phones in school and if any child came to our house with their phone I would make sure it stays downstairs and is just used to call/text parents etc.

I feel really strongly about this. We are letting down our children by allowing them access to this sort of dross.

And OP, no. In my experience this is not normal. My oldest it took of primary and none of their friends have a phone yet. I have said not till 13 and it will be a Nokia not a smart phone.

FFS. my oldest is top of primary. Not the garbage I typed.

You can raise it with the school but at that age it's balancing the they shouldn't have it vs the girl finding out your daughter told the teacher and now she can't have it. I always worry more about DS being excluded socially vs seeing something I would rather he didn't on TikTok, YouTube etc

Phones are handed in at the door at DDS school. They shouldn’t have them in class. Lots of children that age will have Snapchat and tiktok.

Dd said the phone is kept in her friend's bag in her locker. There's always about 10 minutes at the end of the day where they all collect their coats, bags etc. It's usually then that the girl looks at her phone and social media apps. They have an afterschool craft club in class and the phone is switched on at the end of this session.

Yes I think it's one of those divisive things social media, her friend's mum seems okay but very image conscious (think of a lot of botox) so maybe wants her dd to be similar.